In Lieu of Flowers
A Conversation for the Living
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- 9,99 €
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- 9,99 €
Publisher Description
“An elegant book” (Wall Street Journal) that opens us up to our own experiences, and encourages us to accept and honor the “divine intersections” where the living meet the dying.
“Grieving is as natural as breathing, for if we have lived and loved, surely we will grieve. . . .”
Nancy Cobb meets death in the most vital of places—in the lives of everyday people—and in doing so has found a way to infuse this darkest subject with light. Her candor and refreshing perspective make the deaths of those she has loved—and death itself—a subject to explore rather than to avoid. Cobb’s personal experiences become a point of departure for what amounts to a poignant conversation about loss.
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In this brief book--part memoir, part meditation--Cobb (How They Met) pushes us to address death "as lovingly" as we deal with birth or as analytically as we approach cooking. The author herself has seen both her parents die, yet she has found exultation within grief, in the form of "ordinary miracles" at the hospice where her mother died, such as when her mother whispered her last words, "I am so happy." Cobb suggests that "the essence of a person" perseveres in infirmity; indeed, her dying mother remained her crusty self despite her Alzheimer's. "Grief activates empathy," Cobb claims, yet she recognizes that, while it's important to listen, others' stories of losing loved ones serve as suggestions rather than prescriptions for each person's unique experience. Maintaining that "grief needs a place to go" over time, Cobb recommends taking the initiative with someone suffering a loss, doing something useful rather than giving advice. Some of Cobb's stories about her life and her friends range afield, and a few observations seem obvious, such as that some friends will fall away when illness hits. Cobb also has some New-Age tendencies ("I believe the dead linger," she declares; later, she ends a chapter with several anecdotes about well-loved birds appearing after a death). Still, this touching book for the most part avoids sentimentality and, despite its meandering, holds some worthy wisdom.
