Let the More Loving One Be Me

In this compelling tale, Judy Foreman reveals the terror she felt
every night as a girl as she lay in bed frozen in dread, listening for
her father’s footsteps coming down the hall.

She recalls his
mostly naked body, his stale smell, his silhouette in the bedroom
doorway. Worse, in some ways, was her mother’s denial—her insistence
that this man was wonderful, her refusal to acknowledge his drinking or
his rage. It wasn’t until Foreman spent a high school summer as an
exchange student with a Danish family that she began to see how unsafe
her own family was; it wasn’t until she went to an all-women’s college
that she realized that women had value. Ultimately, this book shows that
with time and therapy, it is possible to heal from serious childhood
trauma and lead a life of deep fulfillment, rewarding work and, most
wonderfully, love. It is a book about the power of emotional courage to
change one’s own inner and outer experience of the world, and about what
matters most in life: cultivating healthy connections to other people.