Becoming Bubba's Bitch & Other Fears: One Man's Story of Sexually Abusing Boys

The only time Joe felt loveable and worthy was when he was sexual with boys. Handsome and well-educated, he said once the abuse came out, he felt like a monster and feared becoming "Bubba's Bitch" in prison. Joe's story shows the powerful meanings that sex with boys has for him. Joe needs deep, long-term therapy and should never again be alone with children. The same is true for almost all persons who have abused children sexually. While persons who molest children may be charming and presentable, we cannot be fooled. Our job is to protect children and to make sure that people like Joe have opportunities to show some backbone and deal with the issues that lead them to sexually abuse children. I interviewed Joe as part of a study whose purpose is to understand men who sexually abuse children and to use that information for the protection of children.

Finally, actions speak louder than words. What persons who have perpetrated say has little meaning until their actions over many years in many different situations show that maybe they do want to control their behaviors and maybe they actually do.