Resolving Conflict

“Everything Lou writes is helpful, practical, and biblical because of his wisdom gained through years of counseling experience and his love for God’s Word.”

—Jim Newheiser, Executive Director, Institute for Biblical Counseling and Discipleship


Many Christians see conflict as a dirty word—something to be avoided at all costs. After all, aren’t Christians to be peacemakers who strive to maintain unity?


But, as Lou Priolo reminds us, many other things that the Bible exhorts us to do—such as  convicting, rebuking, and admonishing other Christians—make conflict a necessary part of the Christian life.


Lou takes us through the biblical principles of conflict resolution, beginning before conflict even starts. He shows us the prerequisites we must have in place as we go into conflict, what is at the heart of our conflict, what makes it biblical or unbiblical, and how we should respond to it. He also shares practical steps and advice, giving us specific talking points to resolve conflict and journaling exercises that help us to grow when it happens.


Learn how to “make every effort” to maintain unity—even when that effort must start with conflict!


“Conflicts are like forest fires. If you can put them out while they're still small, you can save an enormous amount of time and effort. That's why this book is so valuable: it provides simple, biblically sound, and incredibly effective insights for resolving conflict in its earliest stages, when it still involves only two people. If you learn and practice these principles, you will spend more time enjoying the people around you—rather than fighting prolonged relational fires.” 

—Ken Sande, President, Relational Wisdom 360; Author, The Peacemaker





Lou Priolo is the founder and president of Competent to Counsel International and is an instructor with Birmingham Theological Seminary. He has been a full-time biblical counselor since 1985 and is a fellow of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors. Lou lives in Birmingham, Alabama, with his wife, Kim, and his daughters, Sophia and Gabriella.