You Cant Have My Pearls recounts the abuse the author suffered at the hands of her family, foster parents, her minister husband, and his family. Nervona was born in Evanston, Illinois. She grew up in West Texas where she lived with her family. Although she has several fond memories of her childhood, years of abuse have overshadowed her recollections. When her parents negligence and abuse were discovered, the author and her siblings were placed in foster homes where they also suffered abuse. Things did not fare well even after their paternal grandparents took them in, for their grandmother was just as abusive. Nervona then found herself in a living nightmare at the hands of her husbands family, who determined to make her life an existing hell. Because of the traumas, she suffered during her younger years, Nervona struggled with personal issues before mustering the courage to free herself from her abusive hold. Once she did, she could find herself and rebuild her life.