Every Grain of Sand

I remembered a line from the Sufi poet Rumi: “You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop.” I looked across the seafloor, focusing deeply on every grain of sand. I imagined that each grain of sand contained the possibility of hope.



Sexual healer and entrepreneur David P. Wichman has lived through it all: childhood abuse, foster care, homelessness, survival sex work, and the blackest pits of drug and alcohol addiction. Despite the darkness, he found a profound sense of purpose as a male escort, but not the type of provider often seen in the news. His approach to sex work transcended common shame-based belief systems as he brought compassionate intimacy to marginalized men, including the elderly, disabled, and traumatized, illustrating a universal need for true connection.



After white-collar crime landed him in jail, David resolved to finally conquer the sense of brokenness that had been driving him to self-destruction throughout his life. In his moving memoir, he recounts how his recovery and spiritual journey have revealed to him his inherent wholeness and worth, a message of love and belonging that he now carries to others. Every Grain of Sand is a celebration of restoration to a life of joy, gratitude, and wonder.



“David Wichman is a true original, a unique spirit. He combines open-heartedness with erotic wisdom and a tender appreciation of the wounded, of the lonely, of all that’s human in the most and least approachable of us. I will always be interested in what he has to report from that frontier where sex and spirit and loving-kindness merge.” –Patrick Mulcahey, television writer, The Bold and the Beautiful