Love: the You, the Me, the Us

"Love" is a commonly used word which is generally not defined. It is sometimes used to mean "I want you," sometimes "I like you;" sometimes "I approve of you or it." But it can be defined and its scientific definition does not fit with any of the above feelings. The word actually requires actions of concern,This book not only defines "love" and shows how it develops, it shows how it should act in relationships between adults and between adults and children.
A second major concern in relationships is the "relationship contract." In a marriage contract, which few people honestly recognize, usually includes the phrase "for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health – until death do us part." Anyone who is divorced and who affirmed that phrase in their marriage ceremony has violated their contract. But most of our understandings about our relationship contracts are what lawyers call "implied" terms. Maybe it was that we had sex every day before marriage and now it is every two weeks-- or never. This is a violation of the implied contract. Maybe in our courtship we saw each other every day, now one of us as a job that takes us away from home a good deal of the time. Here again, we have violated and implied aspect of our contract.
As the book will indicate, some of the terms of our relationships are even below the conscious level and we don't really even know what they are. Here it takes a highly skilled therapist to make us understand important terms of contracts that we cannot even understand.
The more intimate the relationship, the more important it is to understand all of the elements of our relationship contracts.