The Nagging Myth

You've asked nicely. You've asked again. You've asked with an edge in your voice that you hate, and then watched that edge become the issue instead of the thing you were asking for. And somewhere along the way, someone used a word that stopped the conversation cold: nagging.

This book is about that word — where it comes from, what it's doing, and why it's been so effective at making you doubt yourself. Drawing on decades of relationship research, The Nagging Myth takes apart the dynamic that has you both stuck: his defensive filters, your invisible labor, the cycle of pursuit and withdrawal that neither of you chose and both of you feed. 

It explains what he's actually hearing when you ask, what you're actually asking for when you repeat yourself, and what it would take for both of you to finally get through to each other.