"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship."
--John Gray, PhD., bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In this revolutionary book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle.
Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:
• Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back
• Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
• Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.
Attached guides listeners in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.
*Includes a PDF of the attachment style questionnaire
APPLE BOOKS REVIEW
At times, trying to make sense of the emotions that drive our relationships can feel like being lost in a foreign country. With Attached, psychiatrist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel S. F. Heller give us a map. The two therapists believe that attachment theory provides a great framework for understanding romantic relationships. We normally think of attachment theory—the importance of developing strong bonds with others as a part of strengthening ourselves—in terms of parenting, but the need to connect with others hardly goes away in adulthood. The three basic attachment styles—secure, anxious, and avoidant—are just as useful when exploring relationships between adults as they are in thinking about toddlers. Veteran narrator Robert Petkoff’s soothing delivery made Levine and Heller’s intuitive exercises and fun quizzes even more inviting. We experienced some major “Aha!” moments and we found the book’s practical strategies for overcoming self-sabotaging relationship habits—hanging onto perceived slights, attempting to make your partner feel jealous, even texting too much—very empowering.
Life changing must read for EVERYONE. Even if you have no problems with romantic relationships, this recontextualizes how you can see you friends, family, and perspective partners. It allows you to finally put your finger on what it is about certain people that makes you feel secure and happy, and what it is about those that make you feel on edge or second guess yourself constantly. Helps deeply to understand strained parental relationships, toxic romantic relationships that you nonetheless just can’t escape, and which friendships will ultimately bring you joy. The ultimate guide to finding the right people in your life, dealing with bad relationships you can’t leave, and being the partner your partner deserves.
Terrible Audio Quality
Probably a great book, can not listen to it the feedback is so terrible. Do not waste money on it
Probably best as a hard copy
A lot of great information and advice that gave me a new perspective on my and others attachment/communication styles. However, there are a lot of lists and bullet points that I think would make this book better as a hard copy rather than audiobook. It’s a book worth flipping back to!