Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself (Unabridged‪)‬

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Publisher Description

Although clinical research has been conducted on narcissism as a disorder, less is known about its effects on victims who are in toxic relationships with partners with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Individuals with this disorder engage in chronic devaluation and manipulation of their partners, a psychological and emotional phenomenon known as "narcissistic abuse". Unfortunately, the full extent of what narcissistic abuse entails is not taught in any psychology class or diagnostic manual. Since pathological narcissists are unlikely to seek treatment for their disorder, it is difficult to pinpoint what exactly makes a narcissistic abuser tick and the manipulative tactics they use, which are likely to differ from those of other types of abusers as they are more covert and underhanded. What is even more baffling is the addiction we form with our narcissistic abusers, created by biochemical bonds and trauma bonds that are also unlike any other relationship we experience.

Using the latest scientific research as well as thousands of survivor accounts, this book will explore how the emotional manipulation tactics of narcissistic and antisocial partners affect those around them, particularly with regards to its cumulative socioemotional and psychological effects on the victim. It will also address questions such as: What successful techniques, tools, and healing modalities (both traditional and alternative) are available to survivors who have been ridiculed, manipulated, verbally abused, and subject to psychological warfare? What can survivors do to better engage in self-love and self-care? How can they forge the path to healthier relationships, especially if they've been a victim of narcissistic abuse by multiple people or raised by a narcissist? Most importantly, how can they use their experiences of narcissistic abuse to empower themselves towards personal development? What can their interactions with a narcissistic abuser teach them about themselves, their relationship patterns, and the wounds that still need to be healed in order to move forward into the happy relationships and victorious lives they do deserve?

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Julie McKay
hr min
November 29
Audible Studios

Customer Reviews

ConcernedParentsandFamily ,

Shahida knows her stuff

Shahida has a lifetime of experience dealing with narcissists. This book has been a life savor for so many people suffering with this kind of abuse. Her research goes right into her writing along with her lived experiences. She gets right to the point and makes everything clear and understood. I'm grateful to have found her work and she is recommended to everyone I know going through these experiences!

nicknamesarefornerdz ,

Has some good nuggets

There were some good themes but it felt a little bit corny at times.

Nick Namerman ,

Shahida is the Real Deal

It's comforting to read books that affirm your status as a victim of the NPD tornado of crap - the media has become deluged with enough material to keep yourself hung up in that role until you've forgotten how many other things there were to contemplate before the creature from the pink lagoon infused you with that delicious poison.
Shahida has not merely survived the same wretched horrors as her readers - she has found her calling. In all of her writing - and her online presence as well - Shahida's fundamental kindness and compassion draw you in and remind you how lucky we are to be capable of compassion and even human enough to experience despair. The narcissist has shredded the best part of you and mesmerized you into believing they are worthless flaws. You knew better but fear of being wrong held you captive.
It is over. You are rebuilding and expressing rage is natural and healthy - but why waste it?
This book will deliver on its promise - not out of cruelty but out of regenerating what the narc tried - and failed - to destroy.
You will triangulate - not to hurt the narc, but to enlarge yourself because cruelty is beneath you, the days of serving the narc are behind you and it's time to burn that rage in a constructive way. The narc rules a lonely kingdom of crap and his delusion and anguish burn his rage. You are different - your rage is going to burn off helping you rebuild, not revisit.
Stay strong and watch great things happen.

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