Whether you are the pursuer desiring more intimacy or the distancer seeking more autonomy, Desire & Desirability gives you insight into the dangers of the pursuer/distancer relationship pattern and the tools to break free of it.
When pursuers seek too much connection or attachment, distancers feel smothered or trapped. When distancers feel too much pressure for togetherness, they become anxious about losing their freedom and their sense of self. Ultimately, when pushed too hard for increased connection, distancers often flee the relationship, leaving the pursuer feeling rejected or heartbroken.
To sustain a mutually fulfilling relationship, the first step is knowing how to change your own behavior to transform the relationship dynamics. Real-life examples illustrate ways to transform desire based on need into desirability based on fullness. The examples focus primarily on couples in loving relationships, but the principles discussed hold true for all types of relationships including parents and children, coworkers, and friends. The strategies in this audiobook will empower you to achieve a more sustainable and happier relationship based on mutual desire.