How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair: A Compact Manual for the Unfaithful (Unabridged‪)‬

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    • $8.99

Publisher Description

Once an affair comes to light, many unfaithful persons "wake up" and want to save their marriages. Yet they usually make terrible mistakes in their bungled attempts to win back their partners' trust. Linda J. MacDonald, an infidelity specialist for 23 years, has identified behaviors and attitudes that determine unfaithful persons' success or failure to mend their marriages after the wrecking ball of an affair. How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair offers practical advice for those who've strayed and want a second chance.

It would take weeks of therapy to learn what Successful Rebuilders know:

How to avoid the potholes that doom marriages after affairs
Critical guidelines for the first hours after discovery
Fifteen essential steps for repair after betrayal
Skills to cope with your partner's obsessions and "triggers"
Ways to undo the damage from your lies
The keys to avoid prolonging your spouse's agony (and yours)
The difference between helpful and harmful apologies
How to rebuild your broken life, relationships, and integrity

Tamara Marston
hr min
January 4
Podium Publishing

Customer Reviews

Lynnzayee96 ,


If you are hurting, read this book. If you hurt someone you love and want to make it right....READ THIS BOOK! Its really worth it trust me. If you have someone that loves you for you, and asks for nothing but adds to you....please make it right & dont hurt those who love you most.

This book will definitely be a great help!

Bethiebuns ,

A must have book for the unfaithful and faithful

After learning about my husbands affair in China for the past year this book has been such an eye opener. His lies, deception and cover ups have been so damaging to our 18 years of marriage and family. The author minces no words and even talks about the devastating effects on the children. I wish he would have read this before he came home to talk. It would have been much better on me and himself. Even after weeks of dealing with all the pain and his refusal to not seek counseling, think this book will help him to understand the pain that I have endured and help him decided which option he would like to take. If you are in our boat don't hesitate to purchase this book. God bless and wishing all other hurting families the best of luck.

LLGes ,


I purchased this book after I inadvertantly uncovered an affair my husband had. I can't even express how much it helped. If I didn't know better, I would have thought the book was written about ME. It validated everything I felt, thought and every emotion and behavior I exhibited. It validated the depth of my pain and that was incredibly valuable to me that what I was feeling was perfectly normal. It is very concise, easy to read/listen to and gives bullet points about how to traverse righting this horrible wrong, if you truly wish to salvage your marriage. I gave it to my husband and fortunately, he had an open enough mind to accept what was being outlined and recognized where he went wrong post-affair and all of the mistakes he made in trying to "fix" what was done (we all know his mistakes PRE-affair!). I guess hearing it from a trained professional, void of the emotion helped him to understand the depth of pain I was experiencing and what I needed and wanted instead of hearing me screaming it in his face! The book is an easy read/listen. It's short and to the point. It gives you a "road map" - step by step to turn the offender into the healer. I don't know if there's hope for us or if our marriage is salvageable at this point but I feel better knowing that what I'm dealing with now isn't just me being over-dramatic. The pain is real and raw and powerful. For him, it at least outlines his pitfalls and gives him a fighting chance to attempt to right his terrible wrong. I don't know if he'll be successful but after 35 yrs, it's hard to not allow him to make an attempt. I would HIGHLY recommend this book to anyone who is either in or was in an affair and wishes to truly reconcile their mistakes with their spouse. I would also recommend giving this book to anyone you know who's in an affair presently so that they can make a true, honest and sincere attempt at righting such a terrible wrong.

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