How to Not Know You’re Trans: A Memoir of the Unknown Trans Person and How a Marriage Survived and Thrives Through It (Unabridged‪)‬

In 2018, I didn’t merely come out MtF transgender, I discovered I was trans in the first place - as much news to me as it became to the world. On December 31, 2017, to quote the movie, Hot Fuzz, I had "a great big bushy beard". A year later, I was growing breasts! Yes, real breasts, as I hit my true puberty.

What's it like to be a trans woman? Even crazier, what's it like to not know you're trans for your first 50+ years? It's a roller-coaster of joy, heartbreaking sadness, difficult trials and transformations, and tons of comic relief - like any life...but with the twist of coming of age in a world that still seems not ready for trans folk to hit prime time. Bethany's memoir of how she and her marriage have survived and thrive is what it means to be human.