All of us have been manipulated at one point or another. We may have let someone borrow our vehicle, get us to take on more work, or go on an outing that we were not looking forward to. This is part of life, and usually, because of our sense of obligation, we will do this without too much thought about it. There were probably times when you were able to manipulate others into helping you with something, whether or not they really wanted to. Not everyone wants to stay late at work, lend out their favorite shirt, or do something else with you, but because you use manipulation techniques (whether you know it or not), they are willing to do these things.
There is a difference between using manipulation to get a favor and using manipulation as a tool to always be in control of someone else. One common type of manipulation is known as emotional manipulation. Individuals who use this manipulation will play around with your emotions in a way that makes you feel bad or guilty if you are not doing the things that they want. Often, you can be in a relationship with someone where they try to manipulate you, which in turn can worsen the situation.
Everyone deserves to feel loved and valued. While they may get into a relationship where there are some disagreements and hard times, they both still have a mutual respect for each other, and both understand that there has to be some give-and-take in the relationship to make it work. This is the foundation of any good relationship. We may have times when we fall short of the ideal and we get angry or frustrated, or we may even use some passive-aggressive tactics to get our way during a disagreement. There are times when we may say a little white lie or throw out something hurtful towards the other person. So, how is this behavior different from what a manipulator does?
Basically, if you use some of those tactics and then feel guilty or regretful about them almost as soon as you do them, then you are likely not a manipulator. You may have used some of the techniques, but you did not intentionally mean to harm the other person. You likely did it because you were feeling hurt or angry at the time.
It is important to remember that all people are a little bit self-centered. But those who are healthy and emotionally sound will recognize when this behavior comes out, and they will be able to make corrections to the behavior. They feel bad for acting this way and trying to use such horrible tactics to get the other person to do what they want. They may apologize and then work on coming to a solution that is more loving and will work for both parties. We all do or say things in anger or frustration that we do not mean, but it is how we react afterward that will determine if the actions are emotional manipulation.
This audiobook gives a comprehensive guide on the following:
How to manipulate the mind through the NLP
Identifying hidden manipulation
The power of persuasion
Reading of the mind
What to do if you get caught?
Watching your body language during manipulation
How to say no
Identifying manipulator types
Practical ways to identify and resist manipulators
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