The #1 New York Times Bestseller
A hilarious, thoughtful, and in-depth exploration of the pleasures and perils of modern romance from Aziz Ansari, the star of Master of None and one of this generation’s sharpest comedic voices
At some point, every one of us embarks on a journey to find love. We meet people, date, get into and out of relationships, all with the hope of finding someone with whom we share a deep connection. This seems standard now, but it’s wildly different from what people did even just decades ago. Single people today have more romantic options than at any point in human history. With technology, our abilities to connect with and sort through these options are staggering. So why are so many people frustrated?
Some of our problems are unique to our time. “Why did this guy just text me an emoji of a pizza?” “Should I go out with this girl even though she listed Combos as one of her favorite snack foods? Combos?!” “My girlfriend just got a message from some dude named Nathan. Who’s Nathan? Did he just send her a photo of his penis? Should I check just to be sure?”
But the transformation of our romantic lives can’t be explained by technology alone. In a short period of time, the whole culture of finding love has changed dramatically. A few decades ago, people would find a decent person who lived in their neighborhood. Their families would meet and, after deciding neither party seemed like a murderer, they would get married and soon have a kid, all by the time they were twenty-four. Today, people marry later than ever and spend years of their lives on a quest to find the perfect person, a soul mate.
For years, Aziz Ansari has been aiming his comic insight at modern romance, but for Modern Romance, the book, he decided he needed to take things to another level. He teamed up with NYU sociologist Eric Klinenberg and designed a massive research project, including hundreds of interviews and focus groups conducted everywhere from Tokyo to Buenos Aires to Wichita. They analyzed behavioral data and surveys and created their own online research forum on Reddit, which drew thousands of messages. They enlisted the world’s leading social scientists, including Andrew Cherlin, Eli Finkel, Helen Fisher, Sheena Iyengar, Barry Schwartz, Sherry Turkle, and Robb Willer. The result is unlike any social science or humor book we’ve seen before.
In Modern Romance, Ansari combines his irreverent humor with cutting-edge social science to give us an unforgettable tour of our new romantic world.
APPLE BOOKS REVIEW
Actor-comedian Aziz Ansari isn’t necessarily the man you’d turn to for a deep-dive, quantitative analysis of current dating trends, but he is the guy you’d hit up for funny, slightly off-kilter commentary on the weird ways we go about finding love. Surprise—it turns out he can be insightful and hilarious in equal measure. Listen to him narrate his smart, charming survey of modern dating, which relies equally on soundly vetted academic studies and a few, shall we say, less scientific investigations.
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Funny and spot on
Always been a fan of Aziz so this book caught my attention. Especially because I am dating in this modern world. He really nailed it with what modern dating is like today! I've already recommended this book to 5 friends today and am telling you as well.
I quite enjoyed this book and found it interesting and informative. For extra fun, listen to the audiobook. Aziz Ansari does a great job reading it, and adds in things that aren't in the book.
Twice as funny since aziz is reading it.