Psychologist and bestselling author Benjamin Hardy, PhD, debunks the pervasive myths about personality that prevent us from learning—and provides bold strategies for personal transformation
In Personality Isn’t Permanent, Dr. Benjamin Hardy draws on psychological research to demolish the popular misconception that personality—a person’s consistent attitudes and behaviors—is innate and unchanging. Hardy liberates us from the limiting belief that our “true selves” are to be discovered, and shows how we can intentionally create our desired selves and achieve amazing goals instead. He offers practical, science-based advice to for personal-reinvention, including:
• Why personality tests such as Myers-Briggs and Enneagram are not only psychologically destructive but are no more scientific than horoscopes
• Why you should never be the “former” anything--because defining yourself by your past successes is just as damaging to growth as being haunted by past failures
• How to design your current identity based on your desired future self and make decisions here-and-now through your new identity
• How to reframe traumatic and painful experiences into a fresh narrative supporting your future success
• How to become confident enough to define your own life’s purpose
• How to create a network of “empathetic witnesses” who actively encourage you through the highs and lows of extreme growth
• How to enhance your subconscious to overcome addictions and limiting patterns
• How redesign your environment to pull you toward your future, rather than keep you stuck in the past
• How to tap into what psychologists call “pull motivation” by narrowing your focus on a single, definable, and compelling outcome
The book includes true stories of intentional self-transformation—such as Vanessa O’Brien, who quit her corporate job and set the Guinness World Record for a woman climbing the highest peak on every continent in the fastest time; Andre Norman, who became a Harvard fellow after serving a fourteen-year prison sentence; Ken Arlen, who instantly quit smoking by changing his identity narrative; and Hardy himself, who transcended his childhood in a broken home, surrounded by issues of addiction and mental illness, to earn his PhD and build a happy family.
Filled with strategies for reframing your past and designing your future, Personality Isn’t Permanent is a guide to breaking free from the past and becoming the person you want to be.
A Must Read!
This book delivers more value than most therapists! Well done Benjamin! Thanks for getting this out there!
So far eh & a little biased (will update)
I’m having a hard time wanting to continue reading this book, and find the author a little hypocritical. For example, he makes blanket statements (fixed ideas) about groups of people right after criticizing fixed ideas. It’s a bit annoying. For example, and I preface this by saying I’m not a millennial haha, but he claims that millennials all feel like they deserve things without working for them. There’s no nuance to that; how about the fact that millennials do work (and are more productive then previous generations, statistically) but can’t afford housing or security because of our economy? They are working for things, but it’s become increasingly difficult to purchase said things. It probably wouldn’t have annoyed me as much if he wasn’t saying this as a criticism to fixed ideas, since it’s a common perception from older generations. But since he was, I found my self rolling my eyes to his fixed idea. I’m going to keep listening, and will update. So far though, a lot of the examples he’s using are feeling like “well in my generation!” though.
The good modern psychology
I love how Ben helps us to not focus on what's wrong with us, but what could be right with us.
Ben lives it, therefore he writes well & powerful.