Our boys are in a crisis. Toxic masculinity and tough guy-ism are on display daily from our leaders, and we see anger, dysfunction, violence, and depression in young men who are suffocated by harmful social codes. Our young sons are told to stop throwing like a girl. They hear phrases like "man up" when they cry. They are told "boys will be boys" when they behave badly. The "Girl Power" movement has encouraged women to be whoever and do whatever they want, but that sentiment is not often extended to boys.
But we can treat this problem—and the power lies in the hands of parents. It's not only possible to raise boys who aren't emotionally stifled and shoved into stereotypical gender boxes; it's vital if we want a generation of men who can express their emotions, respect women, and help nurse society back to a halfway healthy place. We can reframe manhood. From Aaron Gouveia, who gained viral fame after tweeting his support for his son's painted fingernails (and who knows toxic masculinity very well), learn practical and actionable tips such as: don't accept different standards for moms and dads; teach boys that "girl" is not an insult and retire phrases like "boys will be boys"; and show boys that expressing their emotions and being physical is a good thing.
Not for me
(Edited review below original)
Could only make it 20 minutes with cussing and negativity. He may have amazing things to say but the way he delivers his message gets in the way of his message. Sad. I was looking forward to it.
I decided to listen to the whole book because I wanted to get to the good parts of his message and because I try to challenge myself to listen to things I don’t 100% agree with to see other perspectives.
After listening to the whole thing, there is a lot of good advice in the book. The trouble with it is that his approach will alienate half the population and they will never hear his message- the very population that he’s trying to help change. My other issue with the book is the swearing. I should be able to listen to an audiobook about teaching my son to be a good man in front of my son. I can’t with the language the author uses.
The author is contradictory in that he says to teach your son how to talk to people and be kind yet he swears a lot and can’t stand “idiot f*cks” that disagree with him.
All in all, it goes back to the title of my review that it’s just not for me. Do I regret listening to it? No. Would I recommend it? No. There are other books out there with great advise that I can listen to with my son in the room. I’d advise trying a different book.