We Over Me: The Counterintuitive Approach to Getting Everything You Want from Your Relationship (Unabridged)
NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • The stars of the social media show The Ellises and hosts of the Webby Award-winning podcast Dead Ass with K&D share the core pillars of their relationship as millennial lovers and parents that have allowed them to thrive.
“Staying married in this day and age takes a whole different mindset, and this book gives an intimate and honest look at the inner workings of their strong union.”—Gia Peppers, award-winning journalist and host
After twelve years of marriage, twenty years together, and four kids, Devale and Khadeen Ellis have been through a lot. They’ve loved their way through a long-distance relationship, financial instability, parenthood, Khadeen’s near-death, and their near-divorce, chronicling their day-to-day life with their boys online. After much trial and error, they hit upon one surprising, essential truth: If you’re looking for a healthy relationship and a fulfilling life, focus on your partner’s needs instead of your wants. Choosing service over selfishness will not only make your relationship stronger, but it will help you achieve your own goals and build a legacy together.
With their trademark transparency and humor, Khadeen and Devale share the messy, behind-the-scenes work of what it takes to succeed and support one another in their search for individual purpose while growing in their marriage. They discuss family, parenting, sex and intimacy, finances, and commitment, with honest advice threaded through their stories, such as:
• Stop comparing yourselves to other couples and make your own rules.
• Learn how to function as a team.
• Keep talking about sex.
• The kids ain’t first.
The Ellises might not have all the answers, but they do know that good love takes friendship, grace, and service. Their personal and relatable truths will inspire you to be the kind of partner you want to be so you can build a supportive, enduring relationship.
APPLE BOOKS REVIEW
With straightforward charm, podcast hosts Khadeen and Devale Ellis explore the hard work that goes into building a truly equal relationship. Together since their teens, the hosts of the popular show Dead Ass have been through everything from an unplanned pregnancy to bankruptcy, infidelity, health scares, and more. Their secret to coming out of it all stronger than ever? Honest communication and an unbreakable vow to respect your partner’s needs. We loved the advice to openly align your goals with your partner in both the short term and the long term. And of course, the Ellises’ connection as spouses (and their expertise as podcast hosts) shines through in their narration. If you’re looking for help strengthening your relationship from a couple who has seemingly been through it all, We Over Me is a must-listen.
As a young black man(23), and recently married; I have made the decision that I want to be the role model I wanted to see as a kid when it came to relationships/marriage. Although I did grow up in a 2 parent home, there are things we didn’t talk about when it came to being a loving and caring partner, and a lot of what I know comes from simply watching my parents coexist as a kid/teen.it’s great to hear see more successful black couples share the story to show me that marriage CAN work. I truly believe that this book is a good foundation for anyone who is on their journey to becoming a better partner.
A 10/10 !!!
The honesty in this book !!!! Omg . It’s a lot in this book that I can relate too. 10/10
A must read !! Thank you for taking us through your journey ..