"[Oprah Winfrey and Bruce D. Perry] are both capable, likable narrators who are sincerely engaged with their subject matter...The performances of these two humanitarians make this a must-hear for anyone recovering from their traumatic past." -- AudioFile Magazine
This program is read by the authors.
Our earliest experiences shape our lives far down the road, and What Happened to You? provides powerful scientific and emotional insights into the behavioral patterns so many of us struggle to understand.
“Through this lens we can build a renewed sense of personal self-worth and ultimately recalibrate our responses to circumstances, situations, and relationships. It is, in other words, the key to reshaping our very lives.”—Oprah Winfrey
This audiobook is going to change the way you see your life.
Have you ever wondered "Why did I do that?" or "Why can't I just control my behavior?" Others may judge our reactions and think, "What's wrong with that person?" When questioning our emotions, it's easy to place the blame on ourselves; holding ourselves and those around us to an impossible standard. It's time we started asking a different question.
Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?”
Here, Winfrey shares stories from her own past, understanding through experience the vulnerability that comes from facing trauma and adversity at a young age. In conversation throughout the audiobook, she and Dr. Perry focus on understanding people, behavior, and ourselves. It’s a subtle but profound shift in our approach to trauma, and it’s one that allows us to understand our pasts in order to clear a path to our future—opening the door to resilience and healing in a proven, powerful way.
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APPLE BOOKS REVIEW
Few people have overcome their traumatic childhood more publicly than Oprah Winfrey. In this honest and informative audiobook, the TV icon partners with psychiatrist Dr. Bruce D. Perry to explore how early childhood trauma creates patterns in our brains that shape how we react to situations for the rest of our lives—usually in ways we aren’t even conscious of. Presented as a lengthy conversation between the two longtime friends, the audiobook draws on Perry’s casework as well as audio clips from Oprah’s revealing interviews with childhood trauma survivors, such as a convicted murderer turned criminal justice activist. Though some of the stories of neglect, assault, and self-harm can be difficult, we came away from What Happened To You? with an enlightening—even cathartic—sense of empathy. Oprah and Dr. Perry don’t offer easy solutions for overcoming childhood trauma, but they do provide eye-opening perspectives on its lasting effects.
I work in behavioral health and have been challenged with several traumas myself. Things very similar to what they direct in the book. I was raised in a hostile and abusive home and grew up to love a hostile and abusive man for several years until he finally broke my body and I gave up trying to fix him. Now I live a very different life helping people similar to myself before I was able to restart. Helping others to restart. Anyway, the reason I say all of this is to explain; the value of the book, in my opinion, is limitless. As I was listening I had so many “aha” moments about my own life and experiences. In doing that, in having those experiences, I have found myself more at peace with the world and those I support at work. I also find myself being able to emotionally work on deep scars from childhood by remembering those events during the readings, pausing the audio and thinking through what my dad might have been experiencing or experienced himself that led him to treat us the way he did. I’ve had a recovering relationship with my father for years but it’s never been easier to sit down and forgive him. Finding myself always asking, what may have happened to this person? How can I support without invading their space? How can I be available without prying? It has truly changed my life. Personally and professionally.
This book should be recommended to everyone!
Once you begin to understand what is being translated in this book, you’ll become more aware and compassionate of yourself and others “What happened to you?”
Apple please add PDF to audio version!
What happened to you ?
I had to stop reading at the fourth chapter. Ophra blames black men and women for harsh treatment while neglecting to acknowledge who prepared her for the world. Why you get a white clinician instead of a black on that can related and explain?