A self-empowering plan for anyone who wants to stop being manipulated by others
In Who's Pulling Your Strings?, Dr. Harriet B. Braiker,
New York Times bestselling author of The Disease to Please, explains how depression, low self-esteem, chronic anger, and feelings of helplessness are often the result of being caught in relationships with manipulative people--including family members, friends, coworkers, and associates. More importantly, she arms readers with the knowledge and tools they need to understand and identify manipulative personalities and to free themselves from the bondage of relationships with them.
Working from sound psychological theory and research, yet writing in a warm, accessible style, Braiker exposes the most common methods manipulative people use to control others--and makes clear that it takes at least two people to enable such a relationship to function. With the help of valuable self-assessment quizzes, action plans, and how-to exercises she empowers readers to:
Recognize the signs of a manipulative relationship Spot manipulators and their typical modus operandi Assess their own vulnerability to manipulation Identify the 7 main "Head Games" manipulators play
...and much more, including informative case studies and highly effective Resistance Tactics to help those who identify themselves as victim-participants end the damaging cycle of control and manipulation--and clear the way for success and happiness.
Orlando Sentinel, “She devotes her book to explaining how manipulators operate and, more important, what their victims can do to end these destructive relationships.” --Harry Wessel
Chicago Tribune, “…offers practical suggestions for those who find themselves repeatedly yanked, right down to language they can use in a tight spot.” --Joanne Trestrail
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I have been looking for help for over 10 years that would help me realize why I react to certain people in my life. This is the answer. With all the needed info about recognizing it, avoiding it and confronting it so you can get on with your life. A must read for co-dependents as well. Changed my life.
I stumbled upon this audiobook by accident and I'm very thankful! The information in this book was eye opening to say the least and I only wish I'd had it years ago. I could have saved myself a lot of trouble and heartache. She explains the "mechanics" of manipulation very well, and it is enlightening. It was like someone turned on a flashlight in the dark and revealed all the traps, strings and webs that had been laid for me in various relationships. Then she tells you how to sidestep or avoid the traps. And yes, sometimes there are consequences. But it is better than being the pawn in the games of others. This audiobook is well read, very informative and well worth the money. If you are "stuck" or "spinning your wheels" in relationships and always seem to be on the "losing end" of things, this book may be for you.
This audio is a must for anyone that has been manipulated in a relationship. The cycle of manipulation does not end until you learn the clues and tools narcissist use to control your physical and emotional self. You know if you are being manipulated if you have feelings of confusion, unhappiness, worry and feel you are emotionally out of control. Narcissist don’t care about you and rob you of your identity. That is how I learned something was wrong. I lost my sense of self. It wasn’t until I gathered the strength to move out that I realized what he was doing. I began healing and learning.