Writer and performer on Late Night with Seth Meyers Amber Ruffin writes with her sister Lacey Lamar with humor and heart to share absurd anecdotes about everyday experiences of racism.
Now a writer and performer on Late Night with Seth Meyers and host of The Amber Ruffin Show, Amber Ruffin lives in New York, where she is no one's First Black Friend and everyone is, as she puts it, "stark raving normal." But Amber's sister Lacey? She's still living in their home state of Nebraska, and trust us, you'll never believe what happened to Lacey.
From racist donut shops to strangers putting their whole hand in her hair, from being mistaken for a prostitute to being mistaken for Harriet Tubman, Lacey is a lightning rod for hilariously ridiculous yet all-too-real anecdotes. She's the perfect mix of polite, beautiful, petite, and Black that apparently makes people think "I can say whatever I want to this woman." And now, Amber and Lacey share these entertainingly horrifying stories through their laugh-out-loud sisterly banter. Painfully relatable or shockingly eye-opening (depending on how often you have personally been followed by security at department stores), this book tackles modern-day racism with the perfect balance of levity and gravity.
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Funny and sad that this actually happens regularly. I once had an interview at a doctor’s office. A satellite clinic that was part of a larger hospital. Appointment was at 9am. I enter 15 minutes early dressed professionally, looking good and qualified because I was. One of the receptionists who is polishing her nails at the front desk looks at me in horror as if I shouldn’t be there. Never greets me with a , “ How may I help you, both just look at me like (WHAT DO YOOOU WANT?) I smile and say, “Good morning, my name is .....I have a 9am appointment with Pam SoandSo. They don’t say, “Okay have a seat.” One looks at me and says, “ Well Pam isn’t here.” I’m like, “Do you mean she isn’t here yet or she doesn’t work here?” The other says snidely, “She’s running late.” So I say, “ I’ll have a seat.” These two are clearly disturbed by my presence. So when Pam finally shows up 15 minutes after 9 she apologizes and ushers me in. After talking to me for a while she walks me through the back clinic to introduce me to an all whyte staff, none of whom greet me with a smile of any kind. They don’t even look up. She then takes me back to her office where I ask her, “Do you see African American patients?” I’m asking this because of the way the two receptionists looked at me when I arrived, because I very well could have been a patient. The manager Pam who is a registered nurse replied, “ Yes, we have Black patients and they would probably prefer to have you touch them instead of us.” 🤦🏾♀️ I had to say, “ No, Black people have no problem being touched by folks of other races, we just want them to be qualified and compassionate. “ Of course I never worked there. But I was hired by that company later to work in their main campus hospital and one of their suburban satellite hospitals. This is one of my many experiences. This book is a gem and necessary. Great job. Maybe if folks see how dumb they sound, they will change. 😆😷✨✨✨✨✨
Highly recommend! Loved the point of view and loved their voice. Fun and funny and serious and enjoyable.
Amber and Lacey are real-life superheroes.
Love Amber so much I was so excited to buy this. I was in such a hurry I accidentally bought the audiobook and digital book too ... no regrets!