8 Rules of Love
How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go
The author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Think Like a Monk offers a revelatory guide to every stage of romance, drawing on ancient wisdom and new science.
Nobody sits us down and teaches us how to love. So we’re often thrown into relationships with nothing but romance movies and pop culture to help us muddle through. Until now.
Instead of presenting love as an ethereal concept or a collection of cliches, Jay Shetty lays out specific, actionable steps to help you develop the skills to practice and nurture love better than ever before. He shares insights on how to win or lose together, how to define love, and why you don’t break in a break-up. Inspired by Vedic wisdom and modern science, he tackles the entire relationship cycle, from first dates to moving in together to breaking up and starting over. And he shows us how to avoid falling for false promises and unfulfilling partners.
By living Jay Shetty’s eight rules, we can all love ourselves, our partner, and the world better than we ever thought possible.
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If you’re working on building a lasting relationship, it helps to have a blueprint. That’s what former monk Jay Shetty offers in this practical book, which draws on the ancient Hindu Vedas as inspiration. The Think Like a Monk author understands that modern relationships are clouded by phony ideals celebrated in schmaltzy love stories—and he offers his own cringeworthy proposal story as evidence. Shetty cuts through the Hollywood haze with a ton of exercises (and even a mantra or two) to help us counter our own unrealistic expectations. He stresses that you can’t truly know another person until you understand yourself, which includes figuring out if you have a type—something that can actually hinder your ability to find true love. Whether you’re looking for a new relationship or trying to improve your current one, 8 Rules of Love is a helpful read.
Former Vedic monk Shetty follows up Think Like a Monk with a refreshing look at love as a daily practice. Drawing on wisdom from ancient Hindu scripture (the Vedas) and his own life, Shetty sets up love as a conscious effort, rather than a gift that arrives fully formed, and explains it using the four stages of life outlined by the Vedas. "Solitude" allows space for reflection that will aid in bringing self-knowledge to a relationship. This enables a more effective "compatibility" stage, in which partners assess whether their romantic expectations align. "Healing" promotes a deeper understanding of forgiveness, while "connection" captures the "highest expression of love"—namely using it to serve others. Shetty's intuitive rules ("Win or lose together"; "You don't break in a breakup") are insightful and easy to parse, and the abundant exercises reinforce key takeaways, such as identifying one's "biggest growth area." Shetty combines spiritual wisdom and down-to-earth guidance in a surprisingly seamless way, making for lessons that have real staying power. Those looking to start or strengthen relationships will find this well worth a look.
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