American Men
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- Expected Apr 21, 2026
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- $14.99
Publisher Description
A deeply intimate portrait of the lives of four men that examines—in profound and comprehensive ways—what it means to be a man in America.
Men wield outsized power across all major institutions. But they are falling behind across all measures of well-being and success. They include loving husbands and absent fathers, corporate strivers and displaced workers, the objects and instruments of incredible violence. They are half the population. And yet when mentioned as a bloc, it’s often to ask the question: What’s wrong with them?
American Men is a book that burrows deep into the lives of four men, exploring how each of them construct their relationship to masculinity, and how they navigate that relationship over time. They include Ryan, an amateur MMA fighter from the Akwesasne Mohawk territory, struggling to come to terms with both his sexuality as a closeted gay man and his draw toward bar room violence; Gideon, an itinerant, tall and handsome West Point graduate and former baseball star who unravels when he encounters challenges to his status as the white masculine ideal; Joseph, a Seattle law student whose marriage teeters on the brink of turmoil as he tries on his own to contend with the effects of childhood sexual trauma; and Nate, a young Ohio man still living at home and trying to establish security for himself in a rural pocket of a red state, where he’s under threat as someone who is Black, trans, and poor. Written with searing intimacy after five years of reporting, American Men interweaves their stories into a mosaic that explores identity, heritage, and the pressures and performance of modern American masculinity.
PUBLISHERS WEEKLY
This immersive account from Ringer senior staff writer Conn (The Road from Raqqa) profiles four American men whose lives uniquely tangle with an "inherited masculine ideal": Ryan, a gay man from Akwesasne Mohawk territory who struggles to accept his sexuality; Gideon, an "ex-jock" and West Point graduate whose wife cheats on him with his commander; Nate, a Black trans man "wrestling his own body and... fighting for its right to exist"; and Joseph, a law student who experiences sudden flashbacks to repressed childhood sexual abuse. Conn follows his subjects as they wrestle with identity, family conflicts, substance abuse, and mental health challenges, sensitively conveying their "rawest moments," including Joseph witnessing "intrusive images" of his abuser's genitalia when having sex with his wife and Ryan getting in brutal, bloody bar fights as an adult after being ruthlessly bullied as a child. Amid this pain are moments of joy and relief, like Ryan reaching cathartic release via amateur MMA fighting, or Nate's tearful euphoria after top surgery. Conn stops short of making "grand theories" about American men other than citing numerous ways they "lag... behind their female peers" ("more likely to drop out of high school... more likely to die by suicide... more likely to abuse drugs"). Instead, he focuses, to great success, on compassionate storytelling. The result is hard to look away from.