Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances -- Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions -- Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others -- Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator -- Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask: - Can I set limits and still be a loving person? - What are legitimate boundaries? - What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? - How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money? - Aren't boundaries selfish? - Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries? Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer biblically-based answers to these and other tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.
It's really a great book. It helped me to understand differences between many things that I personally struggled with like forgiveness and reconciliation, boundaries in friendships, differences between loving and obligations and many other things. It would definitely help anyone who feels that people are taking advantage of me or people are abusing me etc... This book also helps us to grow in taking responsibility of God given roles to us in different aspects of life and also helps us from not having guilt or condemnation for those things that are not under our responsibility. Overall it's a great book, it personally helped me in many ways. Thanks to God and thanks to the authors also... 👍
It turned my life around
Brilliantly written, the facade of trying to be everything for everyone dissipates when you establish real and tangible boundaries with others, and especially yourself. Thank you for writing this book, it speaks to me on so many levels.
Glad I am reading this
I always had boundary issues ,scaring away men,family and friends.In other aspects it helped me to see myself in a whole new light and helping me to choose wisely ,I’m still reading it and have the study guide .I notice when I don’t study I get upside down .Thank you guys for a Christian point of view and for those who may not believe God exists ,he does.