Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies
And Other Rituals to Fix Your Life, from Someone Who's Been There
Brutally honest, often hilarious, hard-won lessons in learning to love and care for yourself from a former vice president at Comedy Central who was called “ahead of her time” by Jordan Peele
“You’re going to want Tara Schuster to become your new best friend.”—Glennon Doyle, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Untamed
“Compelling, persuasive, and useful no matter where you are in your life.”—Chelsea Handler, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Life Will Be the Death of Me
By the time she was in her late twenties, Tara Schuster was a rising TV executive who had worked for The Daily Show with Jon Stewart and helped launch Key & Peele to viral superstardom. By all appearances, she had mastered being a grown-up. But beneath that veneer of success, she was a chronically anxious, self-medicating mess. No one knew that her road to adulthood had been paved with depression, anxiety, and shame, owing in large part to her minimally parented upbringing. She realized she’d hit rock bottom when she drunk-dialed her therapist pleading for help.
Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies is the story of Tara’s path to re-parenting herself and becoming a “ninja of self-love.” Through simple, daily rituals, Tara transformed her mind, body, and relationships, and shows how to
• fake gratitude until you actually feel gratitude
• excavate your emotional wounds and heal them with kindness
• identify your self-limiting beliefs, kick them to the curb, and start living a life you choose
• silence your inner frenemy and shield yourself from self-criticism
• carve out time each morning to start your day empowered, inspired, and ready to rule
• create a life you truly, totally f*cking LOVE
This is the book Tara wished someone had given her and it is the book many of us desperately need: a candid, hysterical, addictively readable, practical guide to growing up (no matter where you are in life) and learning to love yourself in a non-throw-up-in-your-mouth-it’s-so-cheesy way.
In this fun, debut memoir-cum-guide to "reparenting" oneself and living one's best life, Schuster, a Comedy Central executive, candidly shares her worst experiences and what's she learned from them. She writes of how she went from self-medicating and self-sabotaging to reclaiming her life by developing healthy rituals such as journaling, writing thank you notes, using vision boards, and cultivating gratefulness. She also divulges sage advice she's been given from mentors and friends, including Jon Stewart and Anjelica Huston. Other advice includes tips on how to build a "lady harem" (or dream team of supportive friends), make peace with frenemies, keep one's home dinner-party-ready, and how to best manage money. For the final chapters, she shares what she's learned in her relationships with men and members of her family. Schuster is jovial throughout and relies on the authority of her experience as she surveys but never overly lauds her impressive career. Filled with gems of wisdom, Schuster's chronicle of her ups and downs is a winner.
Awesome book. Really needed to hear a lot of what she points out. Very encouraging and inspiring!!
For some, but not for me
If you are a young 20 something and feel lost, read on. This may hit you perfectly in the heart.
Read the sample first, it’s very representative of the book. If it’s not your style, then definitely move on. It was not mine but I gave it a chance because of the reviews and wish I’d chosen something else.
The all caps SCREAMING on every third paragraph was brutal to read. Text message slang, borderline childish, sometimes condescending writing style was not for me. When she said something that was almost beautiful, she made it goofy, made fun of it and almost denounced it after and that destroyed the depth for me. Again, maybe not for someone else. I read a ton of non-fiction. Her stories were not written to speak to me, but to someone else. That’s okay.
If you are looking for substance, depth, action and awe-moments, there are better options.
Lovely and Authentic
Somehow this book found me right when I needed it to. I loved every second of the tender stories, advice, and rituals for growth that were presented in this book. This is a warm and fuzzy resource for anyone who is learning to love themselves without judgement. This is a book that I will refer back to over and over again.