Smart, hip, funny, and frank dating advice-from the woman whose USA Weekend RelationTips column is devoured by 49 million readers every week.
Just about everyone wants to be part of a couple-to be loved and be in love. Dating, a process that can be fraught with disaster, may be a necessary evil on the road to achieving a happy, fulfilling intimate relationship. But how do you eliminate the losers and find people to go out with who are dateworthy? Perhaps even more important-how do you make sure that you are dateworthy?
Drawing on thousands of letters she receives through USA Weekend and the questions she fields during her live chats on USAWeekend.com, Dennie Hughes shows you how to:
• Figure out what your personal dating style is
• Stop acting in a way that will mark you as one of the Top Ten most-bound-to-be-broken-up-with dating types
• Rethink unhealthy mindsets about dating like "love at first sight" or "being with a jerk is better than being alone"
• Master the 10 First-Date Commandments
• End a bad date gracefully
• Navigate your way through the intricacies of online dating
• Determine whether a great date equals a possible mate (aka "keep vs. creep potential")
Featuring a Q&A section with actual RelationTips reader problems as well as the author's sometimes sad, sometimes scary, mostly humorous anecdotes from her own plentiful dating fiasco stories, Dateworthy will help you hone your relationship skills so that you can find the right significant other for you.
Backed by a massive publicity push, USA Weekend relationship columnist Hughes is out to fill what she claims is everyone's goal: "to be part of a couple, to be loved and be in love." Her book on becoming "dateworthy" is aimed at women who have a history of dating losers. She advises them to figure out their dating type (Time Bomb, Drama Queen, Shadow, etc.), change their dating style and master a few skills to deal with the ways of men before embarking on their next date. Hughes's style is not for those in a hurry. She's big on paperwork, encouraging readers to "make a list of ten visual qualities that you love in order of preference" and to "write down every relationship that you feel violated your faith in love or undermined your confidence." Yet the book manages to belittle women ("you are the common denominator in all of your failed relationships") and stereotype men ("Men are visual. Dress prettily, not provocatively") without saying much of anything new. Fans of Cosmo and Glamour will like Hughes's familiar style, which is heavy on lists, quizzes and Q&As. Hughes also shares dozens of stories that she says are based on her own dating past. Less empowering than The Rules and more than a little repetitive, this volume will sell well, nevertheless, since Hughes's column reaches millions of people and many of them may want to check it out.