Destroy This House
A Memoir
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4.7 • 6 Ratings
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- $14.99
Publisher Description
“Incredible…riveting.” —Dax Shepard, Armchair Expert podcast
For fans of The Glass Castle and The Liars’ Club, a tender, heartbreaking, and hilarious memoir chronicling the challenges of growing up with a desperately scheming father, a mother plagued by an acute hoarding disorder, and parenting parents while seeking independence.
The Long family’s love was fierce, their lifestyle bizarre, and their deceptions countless. Once her parents were gone, Amanda Uhle realized she was closer to them than anyone else, yet she found herself utterly confounded by the lives they had led.
Amanda’s striving fashion designer mother and her charismatic wheeler-dealer father wove a complex life together that spanned ten different homes across five states over forty perplexing years. Throughout her childhood, as her mother’s hoarding disorder flourished and her father’s schemes crumbled, contradictions abounded. They bartered for dental surgery and drove their massive Lincoln Town Car to the food bank. When financial ruin struck, they abandoned their repossessed mansion for humble parish housing, and Amanda’s father became a preacher. They swung between being filthy rich and dirt poor, devious and virtuous, lonely and loved, fake and real.
In Destroy This House, Amanda sets out to document her parents’ unbelievable exploits and her own hard-won escape into independence. With humor and tenderness, Uhle has crafted a heartfelt and utterly unique memoir, capturing the raucousness, pain, joy, and ultimately, the boundless love that exists between all parents and children.
PUBLISHERS WEEKLY
Droll details about growing up with charismatic yet unstable parents animate McSweeney's publisher Uhle's enjoyable debut. "The Longs," Uhle writes, "were masters of reinvention," who moved frequently and burned through careers as their finances boomed and busted. Her father, Steve, invented a fast-selling soap dispenser in the 1980s, then settled the family in a lavish Long Island mansion. When his next big idea—an "AIDS-resistant toilet seat"—fizzled, the family downsized, and Steve decided to become a pastor despite having no background in religion. As the ground kept shifting, Uhle chafed at her mom's obsessive hoarding and her father's hucksterism, and had recurring dreams of obliterating their crowded house. Her account resists excessive psychologizing: though Uhle stresses the trials of having to parent her parents, her tone throughout remains more bewildered than melancholy. Some readers may wish she was more curious about the source of her parents' dysfunctions, but Uhle's preference for cockeyed portraiture in place of warmed-over inherited trauma tropes is refreshing. The author shares at least one quality with her parents: she can spin a good yarn.