From a caretaker of newborns who’s had years of hands-on experience with celebrity clients—a practical and reassuring guide to the first three months with your new baby.
Are you a new or soon-to-be new mother? Are you caught between self-doubt and conflicting parenting advice coming at you from every direction? Are you unsure who to trust—your mother, sister, friends, or “the experts”? Luiza DeSouza is here to help. Her best advice? Take your time, trust your maternal instincts, and choose a course that fits your needs—and your baby’s personality.
For thirty years, Luiza has been helping new mothers navigate the skills, practices, and support it takes to start a family. For her, mothering is not about programs or techniques. Rather, it is about the connection between you and your new child. And for that reason, she believes that attitude is more important than approach. All mothers are different, but the three most important qualities remain the same for everyone: patience, openness, and attentiveness.
Can being patient, open, and attentive guarantee that your baby will be a good sleeper or easy to feed? Of course not! But no matter what challenges your newborn brings, these three key qualities will help you rise to meet them. Like having your very own baby nurse right at your side, Eat, Play, Sleep is an indispensable guide to a good start and a happy, healthy first three months.
—Learn the best methods for feeding your infant
—Discover the secrets of “good sleepers”
—Understand the importance of a predictable routine
—How to use “play” to help establish a routine
—Tips for introducing bathing and massage
—How to deal with crying, especially if you have a “difficult-to-calm” baby
And much more!
Debut author DeSouza has no-nonsense advice for first-time parents, courtesy of her five decades of experience as a baby nurse. Focusing on the important first three months, she writes that caring for infants requires "patience, openness, and attentiveness." DeSouza prescribes giving loving attention to a baby's individual needs, within a sensibly set routine that includes meals, gentle interaction with caregivers and the outside world, and sleeping. Although there's nothing groundbreaking in her system, DeSouza covers many time-honored tricks of essential care, such as putting washcloths on newborns bathing for the first time so they feel less disoriented. Moms without a nurse or a more experienced relative on hand should find these suggestions very helpful, particularly because such specifics can get lost in books by more academic or medically oriented experts. Though never effusive, her voice does convey steadiness with just a bit of toughness, lending credibility to her statement that coolly confident mothers make for calm, happy babies. She doesn't hide her disdain for certain modern parenting ideas, singling out the attachment theory behind cosleeping as particularly misguided. Families who want a traditional nurse's approach to care, but can't afford help at home, may find this manual a good alternative.