"He says you'll never be hurt as much by being open as you have been by remaining closed."
The messenger is a school janitor with a master's in art history who claims to be channeling "from both sides of the veil." "He" is Adam, a three-year-old who has never spoken an intelligible word. And the message is intended for Martha Beck, Adam's mother, who doesn't know whether to make a mad dash for the door to escape a raving lunatic (after all, how many conversations like this one can you have before you stop getting dinner party invitations and start pushing a mop yourself?) or accept another in a series of life lessons from an impeccable but mysterious source.
From the moment Martha and her husband, John, accidentally conceived their second child, all hell broke loose. They were a couple obsessed with success. After years of matching IQs and test scores with less driven peers, they had two Harvard degrees apiece and were gunning for more. They'd plotted out a future in the most vaunted ivory tower of academe. But the dream had begun to disintegrate. Then, when their unborn son, Adam, was diagnosed with Down syndrome, doctors, advisers, and friends in the Harvard community warned them that if they decided to keep the baby, they would lose all hope of achieving their carefully crafted goals. Fortunately, that's exactly what happened.
Expecting Adam is a poignant, challenging, and achingly funny chronicle of the extraordinary nine months of Martha's pregnancy. By the time Adam was born, Martha and John were propelled into a world in which they were forced to redefine everything of value to them, put all their faith in miracles, and trust that they could fly without a net. And it worked.
Martha's riveting, beautifully written memoir captures the abject terror and exhilarating freedom of facing impending parentdom, being forced to question one's deepest beliefs, and rewriting life's rules. It is an unforgettable celebration of the everyday magic that connects human souls to each other.
I needed this book!
I'm pregnant with my second child and received the startling news after my 18week ultrasound appointment that she could have a trisomy disorder that could be fatal even before her birth. Scared and confused as we awaited the results of the amniocentesis I did research to learn more and 'prepare' myself for the road ahead. This book has been my comforter during this emotional period. Although the amniocentesis came back that she has normal chromosomes, the follow up ultrasound is still showing signs of birth defects. I'm grateful for the baby I've been blessed to carry, my baby girl, and thankful that Ms. Beck wrote a book so honest and heartfelt to help me appreciate the 'unknown.'
A book that feels like home, if you know home to be Light.
A book that made me cry and laugh all at once.
A reminder of what is Real and what is not.
A tree with roots and branches.
A fresh breath
Breathing in Light
Breathing out the other until one day ....
Breathe in Light
Breathe out Light
Martha Beck is sure on point and track when she says that we all have an Adam in our lives. - I too believe in spiritual intervention and believing strongly in my intuition to guide us through "this harsh world". Some of my best friends (including my husband of over 50 years) think I am sometimes wacky. But, I am extremely content and happy with life AND LOVE my family and friends deeply.
Ps. I too have had encounters with dolphins and have pictures to prove it!
Special thanks Martha for a great read. Our book club will discuss it next week and I cannot wait to HEAR their comments.
JLS in Mequon, WI