Now updated with discussion guides for families and small groups, Families Where Grace Is in Place continues to minister to couples and parents nearly twenty years after it was first published. Using his professional and personal experience, VanVonderen shows readers how to nurture God-honoring relationships free of manipulation, legalism, and shame. This book is a practical and insightful discussion on living a graceful life and building a strong and happy home using God's tools.
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Really disappointed in this book
From the title, I had high hopes for this book, but I was horribly disappointed.
This book is one of the least helpful I have found. He comes up with over simplified diagnosis and spiritualizes them to make them sound authoritative.
An overall arrogance is peppered in the tone of the book. Most of it does not read like someone talking through humility. There are a couple of exceptions to this, but the tone overall is arrogant. He talks a lot about shaming being bad, but then spends a large portion of the book shaming and belittling those he thinks are doing things wrong. He paints a lot of two dimensional views of couples and families.
It is more of a parenting book than a marriage book. It contains just enough marriage content to be not helpful. It definitely skips over most Biblical teaching on marriage and sex, instead he gives you his opinions in spiritual language.
Another big problem of this book is that he liberally shares examples of messed up relationships but then absolutely no real examples of how a turn-around might actually happen. He skips to generalities and lack of specific examples.
Don't get me wrong. It is not all bad, but I expected so much more.
I recommend you skip this one. I recommend reading "The Meaning of Marriage" by Tim Keller instead. It deals with the issue of marriage and the Biblical teaching on marriage in a much more complete way.