We've all heard the voice of the inner critic—that part of us that judges us, shames us, and makes us feel inadequate. "You don't want to give in to the Critic, and it doesn't really work to fight against it," explains Dr. Jay Earley. "But there is a way to transform it into an invaluable ally." With Freedom from Your Inner Critic, Dr. Earley and psychotherapist Bonnie Weiss present a self-therapy approach for uncovering the psychological roots of our self-sabotaging inner voices and restoring our sense of worthiness. Filled with insights, case studies, and practical self-therapy exercises, this breakthrough book explores:
How to connect with your Inner Critic through the groundbreaking approach of Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy
The seven varieties of the Inner Critic and their positive intent
Healing your Criticized Child that is hurt by your Inner Critic
Awakening your Inner Champion—the antidote to the influence of your Inner Critic
How to transform your Inner Critic and learn to love yourself
How our self-confidence, motivation, and courage improve when we are free from our Inner Critics
"Self-esteem is our birthright," says Dr. Earley. "And even the most intractable Inner Critic can learn to let go and allow you to blossom." Freedom from Your Inner Critic offers a solution to one of our greatest psychological challenges—so you can reclaim your confidence, freedom, and joy in life.
In this revelatory volume, psychotherapists Earley (Embracing Intimacy) and Weiss (The Illustrated Inner Critic Workbook) explain the origins of self-critical impulses, and then show how to cope with them effectively. Relying heavily on Internal Family Systems Therapy, an approach developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz to facilitate constructive inner dialogue, the authors explore the seven types of internal critics ("Perfectionist," "Inner Controller," "Taskmaster," "Underminer," "Destroyer," "Guilt Tripper," and "Molder") and highlight both the negative and the positive effects each can have on one's life. Earley and Weiss posit that the roots of these critical subpersonalities can be traced back to childhood, when they evolved as mechanisms for survival a child's Inner Controller, for example, might ensure she doesn't talk back to an abusive parent and therefore exacerbate the abuse. But once that child becomes an adult, certain of these constructs are rendered obsolete, though they remain extant and active. The authors offer actionable steps for retraining oneself to activate one's inner champion and live free of these harmful inner critics. Practical exercises bulwark every step along the way, making this a pragmatic and immensely helpful guide for anyone struggling with issues stemming from childhood.