Practical, proven self help steps show how to transform 40 common self-defeating behaviors, including procrastination, envy, obsession, anger, self-pity, compulsion, neediness, guilt, rebellion, inaction, and more.
This follow-up to 1996's Get Out of Your Own Way diagnoses 40 business situations in which workers exhibit symptoms of self-defeating behavior, from "Not Being Able to Take No for an Answer" and "Being Competent but Out of Touch" to "Not Delegating" and "Assuming Others Understand You." Goulston's focus, however, is not on workplace effectiveness but on "earning self-esteem-and its twin sister, success." He devotes a chapter to each workplace issue: first, highlighting a case study that refers to a client from his consulting practice or, tangentially, to one of his hospital patients and, then, explaining how to remedy the behavior. In addition, each chapter is topped off with an aphoristic "Usable Insight" and a to-do list of "Action Steps." People are inclined to commit "hari-kari at work," Goulston says, because of "fearful aggression" and "fearful avoidance," two traits that he traces back to humans' "early-neural, unthinking, animal nature." While his insights are pedestrian-his advice can be boiled down to "be more self-aware"-the structure of the book makes it easy to cherry pick chapters that may apply to you.
Changed me !
This book has changed my life & I will use as a guidance for my future . Thank you ! MUST READ!
This truly is a great book. The information is clear, concise, and actually helpful. Some chapters won’t apply to you, but I guarantee a majority will. I recommend highlighting relevant information and going back occasionally to remind yourself. There is no unnecessary ramblings or agendas, just clear, helpful information to help give you perspective. Like with everything, just reading it won’t fix your life - you will still have to practice and overcome with your own fortitude, but this will be a very handy guide/sidekick in your efforts. A+
I am halfway through this book and have already found four typos. So far he is just giving examples of his patients problems and how they resolved them but not giving concrete advice on how to fix it.