Most of us think we know what we want, and even why we can't get it. In her frank and inspiring book, Tonya Pinkins, star of television and Broadway, shows readers techniques and exercises that help them develop their own processes for obtaining their goals. This is tough love, Tonya style.
In addition to being an actress and singer, Tonya has helped hundreds of people with her catalytic motivational seminars. She herself has seen the heights and the depths: from teen star to Tony Award winner to divorced mother on welfare to spiritual student to soaring success and unstoppable celebrity, delivering her magnificent solo performance at the 2004 Tony Awards show. In Get Over Yourself!, she takes the principles that helped her to succeed and puts them into a book that reaches out and grabs readers searching for a better way of life.
Actress and first time author Pinkins uses religious texts, new age aphorisms and stories from her life in this guide to living a more meaningful and rewarding life. Pinkins writes in a stream of consciousness-esque style that is easy to follow from front to back, but readers who dip in and out of the text will likely find themselves lost, though never far from an affirmative or inspirational nugget: "Events have the meaning you give them," or "the universe will never give you more to manage than you can handle." Though some of these tidbits are Pinkins originals, many are culled from sources as varied as the Talmud, Copernicus, Chinese proverbs, Native American and Tibetan Books of the Dead and the head of marketing for the New York Times. Envisioning the book as a manual, Pinkins includes many quizzes, reviews and suggestions for reflective thought alongside overtly illustrative vignettes that reinforce the concepts being taught: "Gregory's mother left him to live with his grandmother when he was a small boy. He missed her desperately and longed for her all his life; every girlfriend he had seemed to be a repeat of his mother: another treasured woman who would abandon him." Many of the ideas are empowering if not always new, realistic, or rooted in rationality. ("If the rain is like our blessings and it pours down equally on all of us, good and bad alike, what happens if we block it?") Readers already in the new age camp may find this worth a look, though the hodgepodge of inspirational wells Pinkins draws on may turn off some readers.