Good Kids
Why You Suffered in Silence and How to Break the Cycle
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3.0 • 1 Rating
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Publisher Description
If you grew up as a Good Kid, you probably heard these words a lot. And you were good. Quiet. Easy. Responsible. So disciplined, you basically raised yourself. You're the one everyone counts on - and you wear it like a good star.
But nobody ever checks on you. And you're exhausted from proving your goodness by being an overachieving, people pleasing, perfectionist, pushover, and shape-shifting chameleon.
Good Kids is about the invisible trauma and cost of always being "good" - a lifetime of bottling your emotions, performing calm while constantly scanning everyone around you for the slightest sign of upset or disappointment and the crushing fear of being "a burden." Oh, and always worrying that you're in trouble.
Maggie Nick was a Good Kid too - the one who "never caused trouble" and always made sure everyone else was okay (even when she wasn't). Now a trauma therapist, parenting expert, and cycle breaking mom, she's here to help you heal from the fallout of being easy to raise and show you how to support the good kids in your life through those same messy, human moments you weren't allowed to have.
This book answers the questions you've been asking yourself for years, like:
Why do I feel crushing guilt when I say no?
Why do I replay conversations for days, convinced I did something wrong?
Why do I feel like I'm "too much" and "not enough"?
With raw honesty, deep compassion and grounded research, Good Kids gives you the clarity and validation you've been searching for your whole life and the handbook for how to heal and break the good kid cycle for your children.
Customer Reviews
Meh
Legit feel bad for giving an honest rating… it probably comes across as shaming. I really wanted to like this book. I was really excited for it. The book is extremely narrow in scope. If you want a book that tells you to blame your parents for all of your stuff, this one would be it. It doesn’t really address other reasons that could contribute to the “Good Kid” situation beyond a couple paragraphs. It also doesn’t consider other underlying conditions such as ASD or ADHD and how rejection sensitivity plays a role, for example. I found it unfortunately underwhelming.