Hold On to Your Kids
Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers
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3.7 • 34 Ratings
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- $11.99
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- $11.99
Publisher Description
An urgently needed guide to understanding the outsized risks of peer pressure and helping your child navigate this tricky social obstacle, from clinical psychologist Gordon Neufeld and Gabor Maté, M.D., the New York Times bestselling co-author of The Myth of Normal—now updated with chapters on raising children in a digital world
WINNER OF THE NATIONAL PARENTING PUBLICATIONS GOLD AWARD • “A worthy book that brings us genuinely new ideas and fresh perspectives on parenting.”—Mary Pipher, Ph.D., author of Reviving Ophelia
International authority on child development Gordon Neufeld, Ph.D., joins forces with New York Times bestselling co-author of Myth of Normal, Gabor Maté, M.D., to tackle one of the most disturbing trends of our time: Children today looking to their peers for direction—their values, identity, and codes of behavior. This “peer orientation” undermines family cohesion, interferes with healthy development, and fosters a hostile and sexualized youth culture. Children end up becoming overly conformist, desensitized, and alienated, and being “cool” matters more to them than anything else.
Hold On to Your Kids explains the causes of this crucial breakdown of parental influence—and demonstrates ways to “reattach” to sons and daughters, establish the proper hierarchy in the home, make kids feel safe and understood, and earn back your children’s loyalty and love. This updated edition also specifically addresses the unprecedented parenting challenges posed by the rise of digital devices and social media. By helping to reawaken instincts innate to us all, Neufeld and Maté will empower parents to be what nature intended: a true source of contact, security, and warmth for their children.
Customer Reviews
The Best
Nothing is better than this one on parenthood. Or better put - the best is natural instinct, but if you struggle (and everyone is nowadays), you need this one. Outstanding.
Too much repetition.
I made it through 20% of the book but it keeps repeating the same thing. It feels like they were trying too make the book longer and just talk in circles. Theres value in what the author is saying though but I unfortunately just cannot continue, not my style reading.
A MUST READ!
My son is 4 and my daughter is 1 with our third on the way. We got rid of our television when my son was 2 and either have access to screens unless we all watch a show together (a couple times a week) on our computer. I read the title and knew I needed to read because I knew I was peer orientated until I left for the military at 22. I just didn’t know why. This book has helped me forgive myself for treating my father the way a peer oriented kid does. While reading this book I called and apologized. This book should be read by every parent! I skipped to the last chapters on raising children during the times of internet and was blown away. It explained a lot and made sense of what I see in children. I recommend this book to every parent I talk with. Incredible book!