Hold On to Your Kids
Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers
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3.9 • 40 Ratings
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- $6.99
Publisher Description
This parenting classic is as relevant today as it was when it was first published, shining a light on one of the most misunderstood trends of our time: how the influence of peers, magnified by social media and video game culture, is replacing parents in the lives of children, and what parents can do about it—now featuring a new chapter
WINNER OF THE NATIONAL PARENTING PUBLICATIONS GOLD AWARD • “A worthy book that brings us genuinely new ideas and fresh perspectives on parenting.”—Mary Pipher, Ph.D., author of Reviving Ophelia
Children take their lead from their friends: Being “cool” matters more than anything else. Shaping values, identity, and codes of behavior, peer groups are often far more influential than parents. But this situation is far from natural, and it can be dangerous—it undermines family cohesion, interferes with healthy development, and fosters a hostile and sexualized youth culture. Children end up becoming conformist, anxious, and alienated.
In Hold On to Your Kids, acclaimed physician and bestselling author Gabor Maté joins forces with psychologist Gordon Neufeld to pinpoint the causes of this breakdown and offer practical advice on how to “reattach” to your children and earn back their loyalty and love.
By helping to reawaken our instincts, Neufeld and Maté empower parents to be what nature intended: a true source of enrichment, security, and warmth for their children.
Customer Reviews
The Best
Nothing is better than this one on parenthood. Or better put - the best is natural instinct, but if you struggle (and everyone is nowadays), you need this one. Outstanding.
Too much repetition.
I made it through 20% of the book but it keeps repeating the same thing. It feels like they were trying too make the book longer and just talk in circles. Theres value in what the author is saying though but I unfortunately just cannot continue, not my style reading.
A MUST READ!
My son is 4 and my daughter is 1 with our third on the way. We got rid of our television when my son was 2 and either have access to screens unless we all watch a show together (a couple times a week) on our computer. I read the title and knew I needed to read because I knew I was peer orientated until I left for the military at 22. I just didn’t know why. This book has helped me forgive myself for treating my father the way a peer oriented kid does. While reading this book I called and apologized. This book should be read by every parent! I skipped to the last chapters on raising children during the times of internet and was blown away. It explained a lot and made sense of what I see in children. I recommend this book to every parent I talk with. Incredible book!