A guide to breaking free from the enduring, and sometimes damaging, behavioral patterns we learned in childhood.
As we try to navigate the complexities and anxieties of adulthood, considering our childhoods can feel like a daunting task. They happened so long ago; we can probably barely remember, let alone relate to, the little person we used to be. But one of the most powerful explanations for why we struggle as adults is that we were denied the opportunity to fully be ourselves as children.
Whether our parents or caregivers were strict disciplinarians, overly fragile, or distant and preoccupied, the way we were taught to act as children deeply influences how we behave as adults. We might have assumed the role of caregiver, become people pleasers, or learned to tell lies to protect ourselves, burying our true needs and desires deep underground.
When we thoroughly examine our upbringings, the larger implications for our adult selves become clear. Once we understand the roots from which our flaws stem, we can begin to correct the harmful behaviors we mistakenly believe to be innate.
This book is a guide to better understanding our younger selves in order to shape who we wish to be today. It explores to what extent we can pin our actions in the present to our experiences in the past, and how we can break free from the learned patterns of our childhoods.
CONSTRUCTIVE ADVICE for moving on from our childhoods.DRAWING FROM THE PSYCHOLOGICAL teachings of Sigmund Freud, Melanie Klein and Donald Winnicott.EXPLORES POPULAR CONCEPTS such as “The Golden Child,” splitting, and emotional inheritance.UNLEARN PROBLEMATIC CHILDHOOD HABITS to improve our current emotional condition.
Helpful for the early stages
I was on the fence about reading this book and decided to download it right before a flight. After reading it through, I can say it was filled with multiple moments of reflection and encounters with difficult emotions. This is coming from someone who has tried therapy more than once but never really able to feel much better. If you are someone who is far along the self development journey, this book might not offer any new information, but if you have recently identified issues in your childhood that affect your adult life, give this a read.
This book isn’t very helpful for individuals who have done a lot of self work, especially for those who have watched a lot of videos on the School Of Life YouTube channel. You’ll hear what you already heard, and it practically advises readers to see a therapist many times throughout. I was hoping to get more for what I paid for.