I Came All This Way to Meet You
Writing Myself Home
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4.1 • 14 Ratings
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- $14.99
Publisher Description
Named a Best Book of the Year by: Time * New Yorker * Sunday Times (UK)
From New York Times bestselling author Jami Attenberg comes a dazzling memoir about unlocking and embracing her creativity—and how it saved her life.
In this brilliant, fierce, and funny memoir of transformation, Jami Attenberg—described as a “master of modern fiction” (Entertainment Weekly) and the “poet laureate of difficult families” (Kirkus Reviews)—reveals the defining moments that pushed her to create a life, and voice, she could claim for herself. What does it take to devote oneself to art? What does it mean to own one’s ideas? What does the world look like for a woman moving solo through it?
As the daughter of a traveling salesman in the Midwest, Attenberg was drawn to a life on the road. Frustrated by quotidian jobs and hungry for inspiration and fresh experiences, her wanderlust led her across the country and eventually on travels around the globe. Through it all she grapples with questions of mortality, otherworldliness, and what we leave behind.
It is during these adventures that she begins to reflect on the experiences of her youth—the trauma, the challenges, the risks she has taken. Driving across America on self-funded book tours, sometimes crashing on couches when she was broke, she keeps writing: in researching articles for magazines, jotting down ideas for novels, and refining her craft, she grows as an artist and increasingly learns to trust her gut and, ultimately, herself.
Exploring themes of friendship, independence, class, and drive, I Came All This Way to Meet You is an inspiring story of finding one’s way home—emotionally, artistically, and physically—and an examination of art and individuality that will resonate with anyone determined to listen to their own creative calling.
APPLE BOOKS REVIEW
Fiction writer Jami Attenberg’s kaleidoscopic memoir maps the twists and turns of her unorthodox adulthood and her arrival somewhere that feels like peace. With an unflinching eye for absurdity—and occasionally brutal self-awareness—Attenberg takes a decidedly nonlinear approach to telling her own story, cutting back and forth between past and present. She provides glimpses into a tumultuous half century defined by literary successes and failures…and a consistent, cheerful unwillingness to succumb to societal pressures to settle down. What emerges is part travelogue, part emotional excavation, and part rueful love letter to a life lived outside the lines. I Came All This Way to Meet You is full of lingering questions and unexpected joys.
PUBLISHERS WEEKLY
Novelist Attenberg (All Grown Up) meditates on the virtues and vices of an unscripted life in this sparkling memoir. In vivid essays, Attenberg recalls her couch-surfing years in her 20s, an assault she survived in college ("That moment remains a burning hot coal in my chest"), and teaching fiction in Vilnius, Lithuania, as a "newly moderately successful writer" in 2013. She writes of her decision to eschew tradition in pursuit of art and adventure, but how, at age 40, she began to envy her more grounded, married friends: "I did not want... the husband, the kids. But I did want that refrigerator full of food." The tension between rootedness and wanderlust makes for brisk descriptions of locale: from Brooklyn on the cusp of gentrification, where she "had birthdays... and went broke several times," to New Orleans, where she wrote "religiously, daily," to a chapel made of bones in Portugal. Though her narrative flits around in time and space, her writing emerges as a bedrock from which to both grow and settle into. From the vantage point of 2020, she observes: "We are all homebound.... We can't go back to the same way.... Everything is just sideways." Tilted or upright, Attenberg's story shines with wit and empathy.
