Nobody's Victim is an unflinching look at a hidden world most people don’t know exists—one of stalking, blackmail, and sexual violence, online and off—and the incredible story of how one lawyer, determined to fight back, turned her own hell into a revolution.
“We are all a moment away from having our life overtaken by somebody hell-bent on our destruction.” That grim reality—gleaned from personal experience and twenty years of trauma work—is a fundamental principle of Carrie Goldberg’s cutting-edge victims’ rights law firm.
Riveting and an essential timely conversation-starter, Nobody's Victim invites readers to join Carrie on the front lines of the war against sexual violence and privacy violations as she fights for revenge porn and sextortion laws, uncovers major Title IX violations, and sues the hell out of tech companies, schools, and powerful sexual predators. Her battleground is the courtroom; her crusade is to transform clients from victims into warriors.
In gripping detail, Carrie shares the diabolical ways her clients are attacked and how she, through her unique combination of advocacy, badass relentlessness, risk-taking, and client-empowerment, pursues justice for them all. There are stories about a woman whose ex-boyfriend made fake bomb threats in her name and caused a national panic; a fifteen-year-old girl who was sexually assaulted on school grounds and then suspended when she reported the attack; and a man whose ex-boyfriend used a dating app to send more than 1,200 men to ex's home and work for sex. With breathtaking honesty, Carrie also shares her own shattering story about why she began her work and the uphill battle of building a business.
While her clients are a diverse group—from every gender, sexual orientation, age, class, race, religion, occupation, and background—the offenders are not. They are highly predictable. In this book, Carrie offers a taxonomy of the four types of offenders she encounters most often at her firm: assholes, psychos, pervs, and trolls. “If we recognize the patterns of these perpetrators,” she explains, “we know how to fight back.”
Deeply personal yet achingly universal, Nobody's Victim is a bold and much-needed analysis of victim protection in the era of the Internet. This book is an urgent warning of a coming crisis, a predictor of imminent danger, and a weapon to take back control and protect ourselves—both online and off.
Victims' rights lawyer Goldberg shares invaluable insight gleaned from five years of experience helping victims of assault and harassment fight their tormentors in court. She describes past and ongoing cases: one man's ex-boyfriend posted his information on the hook-up app Grindr, inviting strangers to visit his home for sex; a young woman was manipulated into filming pornography; an adult man extorted a teenager into sending nude photos; a young teen was sexually assaulted by a classmate and, after reporting it to the authorities, was suspended from school. While detailing the cases on which she's worked, Goldberg traces the history of relevant judicial rulings and legislation, including the legal fight to hold websites responsible for threats posted by users, the evolution of Title IX, and the work of the Cyber Civil Rights Initiative to ban the dissemination of "revenge porn." Goldberg also candidly narrates her personal ordeal with a former boyfriend who threatened her, had her arrested on false charges, and sent her private photos to her friends and family, which put her on the path toward her current career. This is an illuminating and significant window into the present state of victims' rights and a potentially powerful resource for readers dealing with abuse or harassment.