It Begins with You
The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life
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4.6 • 54 Ratings
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Publisher Description
THE INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES AND USA TODAY BESTSELLER
Oprah Daily Best Self-Help Books for Personal Growth in 2025 – New York Post Best of the Month
The beloved relationship coach, teacher, and host of the top relationship podcast Jillian on Love reveals nine core truths about love and self-acceptance and provides powerful self-healing techniques and strategies to help us repair our relationship with ourselves and start building the rewarding relationships we deserve.
Jillian Turecki’s holistic, compassionate, yet no-nonsense approach to love has attracted a devoted following of millions. In her highly anticipated debut book, she makes clear that if you want a meaningful relationship filled with connection, security, and intimacy, you have to look within. The common denominator in all your relationships is you.
Drawing from decades of experience helping clients heal themselves and their relationships, It Begins with You introduces the 9 core truths we must accept in order to change our lives:
Truth 1: It begins with you.Truth 2: The mind is a battlefield.Truth 3: Lust is not the same thing as love.Truth 4: You have to love yourself.Truth 5: You must speak up and tell the truth. Truth 6: You need to be your best self (even after the honeymoon). Truth 7: You cannot convince someone to love you. Truth 8: No one is coming to save you.Truth 9: You must make peace with your parents.
Blending therapeutic strategies, somatic techniques, client case studies, practical tools, tips, and guiding questions, It Begins with You gives us a roadmap to finally start doing the work needed to love ourselves and find the love we deserve. It's never too late to choose yourself.
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Jillian on Love podcaster Turecki centers her uneven debut on the principle that romantic partnerships "reflect... the relationship we have with ourselves." Outlining how to "break through the barriers" that prevent emotional intimacy, she asks readers to identify harmful patterns they perpetuate in their love lives ("Could I be more discerning in choosing a partner?... When do I struggle to communicate?"); to rework limiting internal narratives that squash rational thinking ("What am I focusing on? What else could this mean?"); and to tell the truth to themselves and others, or risk "resentment, disconnection, and the utter disempowerment that comes from losing ourselves to fear instead of expressing who we are." Turecki, who was the subject of her psychiatrist father Stanley Turecki's book The Difficult Child, concludes with a revealing chapter about making peace with one's parents in order to avoid recreating their toxic relationship patterns. In it, she writes that a "big sign of my personal growth is that I do not date men anymore who are similar to the worst parts of my father." Turecki's core tenets are sound, though a tendency to restate her central message—that a relationship is a mirror of oneself—in different ways lends the book a repetitive feel. Readers seeking dating advice have more comprehensive options to choose from.
Customer Reviews
Must read
Could not have came at a better time for me to read!!
Insightful
Ive followed Jillian’s work for awhile before reading this book. The book is a great at building a foundation for relationships in life. Recommend!