From the Introduction: This book is research-based—and what the research shows is this: The real problem isn't dating, or men. The problem is that during the early stages of dating, women unknowingly make one or more fundamental mistakes that hinder their ability to date successfully and find the man of their dreams. This book will identify each of these Top 10 mistakes, and show you how to fix them.
With Dr. Christie Hartman as your guide, you'll learn how to put this groundbreaking research to work for you. You'll learn that you, as a woman:
• Have the advantage over men in the dating world
• Should make the first move with men—not wait for them to act
• Can detect if a guy is truly interested in you, even before you go out with him
Anyone can tell you to avoid sex on the first date, or to wear a skirt, or to flirt a lot. This book gives you what you really need: the research-based strategies you need to make dating work for you—and find the happiness you deserve!
Though she agrees that "sometimes dating sucks," psychologist Hartman (Dating the Divorced Man) has found, through considerable research, that "during the early stages of dating, women unknowingly make one or more fundamental mistakes." Here, she enumerates the top ten such mistakes-including "You Think Men Have a Clue," "Your Attitude Sucks," and "You Plan Your Wedding After the First Date"-to help women identify and stop self-sabotaging behaviors. Throughout, Hartman puts responsibility squarely on the woman reading, a tough-love strategy assuaged with doses of compassion and empathy, and sweetened by the promise of empowerment, independence and self-knowledge. Hartman also encourages women to learn as much as possible about the men's side of things, pointing to Askmen.com and Neil Strauss's The Game. More than experts, mothers and even friends, however, Hartman believes a woman's most helpful advisor is herself; her most valuable lesson is on tuning out unhelpful voices and learning to listen to the one that knows you best.