In a boldly honest and elegantly written memoir—the first on this topic—Emily White reveals the painful and sometimes debilitating experience of living with chronic loneliness. In the vein of popular favorites such as Girl, Interrupted and Manic, Lonely approaches loneliness in the way that Andrew Soloman’s The Noonday Demon approached depression, and lifts the veil on a mostly ignored population who often suffer their disorder in silence.
An astonishingly forthright work by a Canadian lawyer traces her painful personal journey through chronic loneliness in light of social taboos and changing cultural and medical notions. White can pinpoint the origin of her sense of loneliness to the early divorce of her parents, leaving her with long stretches of being home by herself as her two much older sisters and working mother were absent. She recognized later that her mother, too, had battled a self-imposed isolation, underscoring a genetic component to the state. Moreover, the author's choice of practicing specialized law in a small Toronto firm provided her long hours in the office and little outside contact. Her loneliness, she found, became increasingly self-perpetuating: rejecting invitations, eschewing connections, and generally refusing to participate "in life in the way that it was meant to be lived." The stigma of being lonely kept her from admitting her state for years (compounded by her inability to come out about being gay until she was 35); finally, she spoke with a sympathetic therapist and opened a blog to hear views from others. White plunged into research on the subject, revealing studies about the alienating nature of modern society and the health risks of chronic loneliness. White's work is brutally honest as she emphasizes that loneliness is not the same as depression.
Great notions on loneliness!
Many people would never even consider their dwelling on loneliness, simply cause is not a subject anywhere, but academic literature. It is a more common state than many would admit to.
This book offers greats insights on the state of loneliness, which is rarely, if ever, talked about. Is not a self-help book, but it defintely helps you to understand the state, accept it and to live it without a sense of desperation. I think is very well written.
The blog by Emily White also offers more information about the subject. It is a good thing that the title is LONELY, cause it was the word that caught my attention at the bookstore, otherwise I would never even come up with such a concept. Thanks Emily, great work!