An eye-opening, funny, painful, and always truthful in-depth examination of modern relationships and a wake-up call for single women about getting real about Mr. Right.
You have a fulfilling job, great friends, and the perfect apartment. So what if you haven’t found “The One” just yet. He’ll come along someday, right?
But what if he doesn’t? Or what if Mr. Right had been, well, Mr. Right in Front of You—but you passed him by? Nearing forty and still single, journalist Lori Gottlieb started to wonder: What makes for lasting romantic fulfillment, and are we looking for those qualities when we’re dating? Are we too picky about trivial things that don’t matter, and not picky enough about the often overlooked things that do?
In Marry Him, Gottlieb explores an all-too-common dilemma—how to reconcile the desire for a happy marriage with a list of must-haves and deal-breakers so long and complicated that many great guys get misguidedly eliminated. On a quest to find the answer, Gottlieb sets out on her own journey in search of love, discovering wisdom and surprising insights from sociologists and neurobiologists, marital researchers and behavioral economists—as well as single and married men and women of all generations.
Building on her Atlantic article, 40-something single mom Gottlieb (Stick Figure) sought the advice of matchmakers, dating coaches, clergy, economists, and psychologists in her quest for a husband. She learned that women today bring a dangerous sense of entitlement to dating. Instead, Gottlieb says, women need to be more open-minded and realistic, and just choose the best available option when it comes to a mate and appreciate him. Although familiar, the advice doled out also makes good sense, and Gottlieb is personable and appealing.
This book is amazing from start to finish. It was very insightful and very helpful for me. This is one of the best books I’ve read in a really long time. I had a hard time putting it down. The research, the interviews, the personal accounts, the content all really good and consistent. The title of the book is controversial and maybe discouraging to some, but the content is realistic and practical. I recommend this books to women and men in their early 20s and up that want fulfilling long term relationships. It’s a guide to “getting of your high horse and into good long lasting relationships” to some it up.
So happy I read this!
When I read Lori's article in the Atlantic, I was shocked, saddened, and a little angry. Fortunately, it left me hungry for more. I wanted to read the entire story before deciding exactly how I felt about her theories, learnings, and advice. Now, it all makes absolute sense and I completely agree with her. This book is not about settling at all! It's not offensive or even scary which was the impression the article gave me. It's simply a reality check for us 20 and 30 year old women. I saw myself in so many of the anecdotes and I feel enlightened!
This book can be summed up in few sentences, if not, a paragraph. First few pages to the first chapter says it all. Read the sample, it's good enough. There's really nothing more to it.