Matchmaker's Corner. Choosing, Finding and Attracting Your Life Mate

There are many reasons that somebody selects a mate or a boy or girlfriend. Does she resemble your mother or have a certain similarity to your first girlfriend? Does he remind you of someone you were madly in love with at sixteen (who was an alcoholic?)? Some people have very positive partnering patterns and usually manage to pick a partner based on real present data as to what works for them in a relationship rather than on remembered unfulfilled attractions from the past. Others (most of us) need a tool to allow them to do this. Here we will create a tool for this which will be uniquely your own. This is a tool which you can use to decide if a caller from a personal ad is worth meeting, whether an attractive someone you meet at a dance is worth dating, whether someone you've seen a few times is worth getting serious with, etc. You'll start with something very basic and keep honing it to suit you. As we create this tool, it is important to be clear on the kind of relationship you are creating it for. Your requirements for a marital partner may be quite different from your requirements for a lover you intend to see once a month or for a summer romance which you are expecting to end after you leave Club Med. We Humans fall in love and form bonds quickly, subconsciously modeling past relationships, so it is necessary to remember what you want for yourself.