The most well-know, long-lived, and tried-and-tested relationships guide ever, the phenomenal #1 New York Times bestseller Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus is now available for the first time ever as an ebook. In this classic guide to understanding the opposite sex, Dr. John Gray provides a practical and proven way for men and women to improve their communication by acknowledging the differences between their needs, desires, and behaviors. No other relationship guide on the market will give you the same level of evidence-based insight sure to help you strengthen and nurture your relationships for years to come.
Psychotherapist Gray ( What You Feel You Can Heal ) adds to the growing number of self-help books that assess marital and relationship problems in terms of distinct and pervasive gender differences. Unfortunately, his overuse of gimmicky, often silly analogies and metaphors makes his otherwise down-to-earth guide hard to take seriously. Here Martians (men) play Mr. Fix-It while Venusians (women) run the Home-Improvement Committee; when upset, Martians ``go to their caves'' (to sort things out alone) while Venusians ``go to the well'' (for emotional cleansing). While graphically illustrative, the hyperbolic, overextended comparisons, particularly in the chapters that refer to men as rubber bands and women as waves, significantly detract from Gray's realistic insights.
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The definitive book on understanding relationships
This book isn't a prescription for how to fix a relationship - but it does provide valuable insight into how men and women look at relationship dynamics. And with that insight - you can better navigate the waters of the relationship ocean. Although she (he) never gave you an operator's manual this comes as close to as what you'll ever need.
Stereotypes abound, offers no real solutions
I am a man in a troubled long-term relationship. My female partner is reluctant to talk about her feelings, is upset when I don't offer tangible solutions to her problems, never says i love you and squirms at my attempts to be romantic and carve out time to do coupley things. According to this book, this is utterly impossible that we even exist. The roles should be reversed on every issue i stated above apparently. Alas, I find myself in a complex relationship and know many other couples who are in them too.
This book assumes that men hate talking about their feelings, that women are naturally subservient to men and will back down on an issue to placate their man, and that women often feel unappreciated for things they do while men really do not.
For some, this generic view of male/female relationships may be of some value. For us, two people with complex personalities, backgrounds, egos and feelings, this 'one-size-fits-all' of a book was a waste of time.
Still Worth It After Two Decades
I read most of this book when it first came out in 1992, and as of early 2015, a lot of its wisdom is still valid. For the last 20+ years, I have enjoyed many conversations with men and women about this book. I read several of the reviews in iBooks, and I really had a few good laughs at the reviewers who gave the book one or two stars and parroted cliches like "stereotypes" or "not factual" or "not scientific," etc. Maybe some people will agree with these negative shibboleths, but this book is helpful and offers some good suggestions for couples (married or dating) to get along better. It's not a panacea, but worth the read. I'm not going to give a thorough review, I just recommend you buy the book at this affordable price. Start reading it, and see what YOU think. Too many folks today have to have an "expert" to give them permission to read something. Use your own common sense, and sort out the ideas that have staying power. Any book can be criticized, but none is perfect, save One. If you dismiss this book, you'll miss an opportunity to learn a few things about opposite sex relationships. Finally, I'm not politically correct saying this, but you may have a few ideas who some of the negative critics are. Some people just don't like same sex couples to get along and even be happy. I don't agree with everything the book says, but that is rather trite. Enjoy.