Botwin presents the first book that shows a woman how to tell if her man is cheating, whether it is possible for him to change and how to create a more intimate relationship based on trust. Sound and realistic advice from a well-known columnist for New Woman magazine.
Infidelity by men, whether they are unattached, married or live-in lovers, is on the rise despite AIDS, according to Botwin, New Woman advice columnist and author of The Love Crisis . In this guide for women on how to detect and cope with infidelity, which is based on statistical data as well as interviews with 76 men and women, the author notes a male propensity to strayeven among the monogamously inclined. She characterizes the conditions favorable to cheating, such as no-fault divorce, a large female workforce, etc., and the most vulnerable types of men: the compulsively macho, those with sexual dysfunctions, with shaky self-esteem, afraid of intimacy, in a mid-life crisis, etc. Of special value is Botwin's advice on dealing with the anger, pain, self-blame and jealousy caused by the shock of discovering infidelityand on how to assess the damage and confront the man. The successful development or rebuilding of a trusting relationship, she counsels, depends on fostering communication and intimacy. First serial to Redbook, Cosmopolitan and New Woman; Literary Guild alternate.