Scripture reveals a God who meets us where we are, not where we pretend to be. No More Faking Fine is your invitation to get gut-level honest with God through the life-giving language of lament.
If you've ever been given empty clichés during challenging times, you know how painful it can feel to be misunderstood by well-meaning people. When life hurts hard, we often feel pressure--from others and ourselves--to keep it together, to suck it up, or pray it away. But Scripture reveals a God who lovingly invites us to give honest voice to our emotions when life hurts hard.
For most of her life, Esther Fleece Allen believed she could bypass the painful emotions of her broken past by shutting them down altogether. She was known by all as an achiever and an overcomer on the fast track to success. But in silencing her pain, she robbed herself of the opportunity to be healed. Maybe you've done the same.
Esther's journey into healing began when she discovered that God has given us a real-world way to deal with our raw emotions and an alternative to the coping mechanisms that end up causing more pain. It's called lament--the gut-level, honest prayer that God never ignores, never silences, and never wastes.
No More Faking Fine is your permission to lament, taking you on a journey down the unexpected pathway to true intimacy with God. Drawing from careful biblical study and hard-won insight, Esther reveals how to use God's own language to come closer to him as he leads us through our pain to the light on the other side.
And, like Esther, you'll soon find that when one person stops faking fine, it gives permission to everyone else to do the same.
Fleece, international speaker, founder and CEO of L&L Consulting, encourages readers to lament past pain and heal through God by accepting disappointment instead of pushing negative experiences away. Her difficult childhood and young adulthood are detailed throughout the book: she suffered heart-breaking paternal neglect and abuse, as well as cruel rejection from her mother and grandmother, and she spent years evading her felonious stalker father. Fleece survived and thrived. After college, she rose through the corporate ranks at New Iron Media before leaving as a vice-president at age 25 to lead millennial outreach for Focus on the Family, a nonprofit. Although her reputation and perseverance will certainly bring readers to her story, succeeding financially or professionally is not the point of the book. Fleece is more concerned with how she "faked" her way, as she says, into her many successes. She writes of the ultimate bankruptcy of "faking fine," championing instead the value of recognizing and naming pain through the long biblical and religious tradition of lament. Passionately encouraging readers to create space for authentic self-reflection in Christian life and practice, Fleece should gain a whole new audience with this book.
This book inspires, encourages, and gets you on the right track when it comes to dealing with past hurts and disappointments.