The Sexual Deviant in All of Us

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Publisher Description

"As a sex writer, Jesse Bering is fearless—and peerless." —Dan Savage

"You are a sexual deviant. A pervert, through and through." We may not want to admit it, but as the award-winning columnist and psychologist Jesse Bering reveals in Perv, there is a spectrum of perversion along which we all sit. Whether it's voyeurism, exhibitionism, or your run-of-the-mill foot fetish, we all possess a suite of sexual tastes as unique as our fingerprints—and as secret as the rest of the skeletons we've hidden in our closets.

Combining cutting-edge studies and critiques of landmark research and conclusions drawn by Sigmund Freud, Alfred Kinsey, and the DSM-5, Bering pulls the curtain back on paraphilias, arguing that sexual deviance is commonplace. He explores the countless fetishists of the world, including people who wear a respectable suit during the day and handcuff a willing sexual partner at night. But he also takes us into the lives of "erotic outliers," such as a woman who falls madly in love with the Eiffel Tower; a pair of deeply affectionate identical twins; those with a particular penchant for statues; and others who are enamored of crevices not found on the human body.

Moving from science to politics, psychology, history, and his own reflections on growing up gay in America, Bering confronts hypocrisy, prejudice, and harm as they relate to sexuality on a global scale. Humanizing so-called deviants while at the same time asking serious questions about the differences between thought and action, he presents us with a challenge: to understand that our best hope of solving some of the most troubling problems of our age hinges entirely on the amoral study of sex.

As kinky as it is compassionate, illuminating, and engrossing, Perv is an irresistible and deeply personal book. "I can't promise you an orgasm at the end of our adventure," Bering writes, "but I can promise you a better understanding of why you get the ones you do."

Health, Mind & Body
October 8
Farrar, Straus and Giroux

Customer Reviews

Biggie Stardust ,

One of my favorite books.

This was an entertaining, highly informative, (occasionally uncomfortable) and often hilarious read.

Problematic fav, though. Nothing in here is first date talk. I mean, unless she’s a dominatrix or something. Which is totally fine.

Lmv5853 ,

Could be better

I am extremely interested in the topics of human sexuality and gender identification. I was looking forward to reading this book. Unfortunately the majority of this book is based on numerous stories, antidotes and studies from the past. In many cases, the very very distant past. The first couple chapters were slow and bogged down with a lot of theory. I'm more interested in what's happening now. Stories from ancient times, antidotes from Napoleons time in France, and studies from the 1800s just didn't hold my interest. After struggling through the first couple chapters, I was able to find some interesting bits of reading

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