Raising Securely Attached Kids
Using Connection-Focused Parenting to Create Confidence, Empathy, and Resilience
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A USA TODAY BESTSELLER
*Winner of the Child Psychology Award for Literary Excellence*
“A comprehensive roadmap for parents who want to raise securely attached, emotionally healthy children. A parenting must-read.” —Alyssa Blask Campbell, M.Ed., author of Tiny Humans, Big Emotions
“Eli Harwood teaches the essentials of attachment, which can help parents 'show up' in ways that enable our children to become securely attached to us.” —Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., New York Times bestselling co-author of The Whole-Brain Child
Learn how to create a lifetime of connection, trust, and open communication with your children through connection-focused parenting.
Though there have been countless studies on how attachment styles affect our romantic relationships, Raising Securely Attached Kids is the first book to reframe the subject for caregivers and children.
Licensed therapist and highly sought-after attachment research expert Eli Harwood illuminates the science that explores our innate human need to bond with other humans, and helps us harness it as the only parenting approach proven to have a lasting impact. Her loyal following—fast approaching the millions—connects to Eli’s accessible approach that helps everyone form secure and close relationships with their kids, which helps them develop resilience, confidence, and form close relationships in the future.
“Eli Harwood brings infectious-fun energy, vulnerability, and fresh perspectives without shaming or blaming. Not only is Raising Securely Attached Kids a practical and actionable guide, it’s grounded in science and entertaining to read.” —Hilary Swank, actress, storyteller, mom of twins
Hopeful and inspiring, this essential evidence-based guide shows parents, educators, and anyone with children in their lives that they are not alone in the questions and concerns they may have about raising confident, capable, and caring kids.
Covering every parenting era from newborns to adults, Raising Securely Attached Kids teaches simple, real-life strategies that will help you: Move past old patterns from your childhood to become the parent or caregiver you yearn to be—no matter what you went through growing upResolve past attachment traumas so you can offer a calm, connected, and secure baseCreate a secure attachment relationship with your kids by choosing connection over controlBuild and reinforce a strong foundation of trust with scripts and practical toolsUnderstand that it’s never too late to create a stronger bond with your children
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In this compassionate manual, therapist Harwood (Securely Attached) explains how parents can use attachment theory to bond with their children. How someone is raised determines which of four relationship styles one forms in adulthood, Harwood explains, noting that secure attachment is the ideal and that it follows from a caregiver's ability to connect with and help regulate the emotions of their child. Expounding on how to form secure bonds, Harwood warns against issuing dictates and instead urges parents to work with children to understand why they might be resisting a request and come up with a mutually satisfying solution. To help children cope with their emotions, Harwood recommends that parents identify their child's feeling for them, encourage them to "let the emotions out (cry, usually, but also growl or huff)," and then close with a hug. Though Harwood includes a few tips for teens, the balance of the advice will be most applicable for younger children. Useful scripts show how parents can support kids while encouraging them to get outside their comfort zone ("You've got this, kid, but if something else happens and you need my help, I am a phone call away"), and Harwood brings a welcome recognition that even in the most loving families, "every parent and child is destined to have seasons of strife and struggle." Parents of all stripes will want to check this out.
