Love has a history and we ride – sometimes rather helplessly – on its currents. Since around 1750, we have been living in a highly distinctive era in the history of love that we can call Romanticism. And it has been a disaster for love.
Relationships challenges the assumptions of the Romantic view of love. It shows how to develop new attitudes that can lead to a psychologically mature vision of love:
▪ That it is ok that love and sex may not always belong together
▪ That discussing money early on, in a serious way, is not a betrayal of love
▪ That realising that we are rather flawed, and our partner is too, is of huge benefit to a couple
▪ That we will never find everything we need in another person, nor they in us
▪ That spending two hours discussing whether bathroom towels should be hung up or can be left on the floor has its own dignity
Full of applied real-life examples, and enlivened throughout with humour and cultural anecdote, this innovative guide paves the way to a new, brighter future for love.
Very insightful. I found many of the concepts to be very relatable and eye opening. Very easy to read.